scaredinlove Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 MM tells me I should date other guys because he cannot give me what I need.As soon as I mention that I will start he goes into jealousy fit, or he will just ask me to wait or keep asking me not to see anyone else. So it is a little game we have. As for me I keep looking at other guys but they always lose, i always find million reasons why I shouldn't date them. Deep inside I don't want to see no one else. There is a side of me who tells me I should . I guess I am not ready yet. Cannot picture myself with another man.
9Lives Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 MM tells me I should date other guys because he cannot give me what I need.As soon as I mention that I will start he goes into jealousy fit, or he will just ask me to wait or keep asking me not to see anyone else. So it is a little game we have. As for me I keep looking at other guys but they always lose, i always find million reasons why I shouldn't date them. Deep inside I don't want to see no one else. There is a side of me who tells me I should . I guess I am not ready yet. Cannot picture myself with another man. it is pretty tough but I date like about 6 guys right now. I am not sexual with any of them. It is better. It keeps me strong and not so attached to him.
Hoping For the Best Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 I would ask yourself what your motives for dating other men are. If you are just trying to make him jealous to get him to leave his W, then there are better ways to make him choose. If you truely are interested in seeing what else is out there, shouldn't you end your R with the MM so you can both move on? I know that I don't know everything. So maybe I am missing something.
frannie Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 I would ask yourself what your motives for dating other men are. If you are just trying to make him jealous to get him to leave his W, then there are better ways to make him choose. If you truely are interested in seeing what else is out there, shouldn't you end your R with the MM so you can both move on? I know that I don't know everything. So maybe I am missing something. I think you've said exactly what I wanted to express, only much more succinctly
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 I didn't 'ask' my xMM if I could date. I TOLD him I was going to start dating. Sitting around on Friday nights wishing it was ME he was with and not his wife, and wishing we could go out and paint the town or just sit on the couch and watch a movie together, got REAL old. Being honest, I had more respect for myself than to just lay down and die because HE was living his real life while I had to sit in silence wishing for more. Why compromise yourself like that? To what end? It's not like it's getting you anywhere. A couple months later I ended the affair when I found someone who GAVE as much to the relationship as I did. Someone giving me 10% of his time - and all done sneakily, deceitfully, and on the sly, is hardly the thing dreams are made of.
bish Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 when I mentioned I would maybe start dating, he went ballistic, He has never scream at me, but this one time. Telling me he would break our r off IF I were to date. Since then he calls very late to " check" if I am home. And you now feel all warm and fuzzy inside...dontcha?
Author vivi Posted August 18, 2007 Author Posted August 18, 2007 And did that response make YOU feel all warm and fuzzy inside, bish? Quite the needle artist, aintcha.
bish Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 And did that response make YOU feel all warm and fuzzy inside, bish? Quite the needle artist, aintcha. *evil grin*
Author vivi Posted August 18, 2007 Author Posted August 18, 2007 That wasn't a compliment. And nothing to be proud of, in my view. If you've got issues, cancel our subscription at this board and take them to the Infidelity board.
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