luvstarved Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Just wondering what others think about this. My H has a tendency to laugh at the rest of the family when we do poorly at something. He is very athletic, for example, and when we go out to mini golf or bowl or whatever, he will laugh when somebody misses a putt, bowls a gutter ball, etc. My 8 year old daughter was in tears one day because I asked her to go mini golfing and then he said he wanted to go. He didn't go, and in the car she said she was upset because he is a "poor sport" and it is not fun when he goes. We went to a company outing yesterday and they had a driving range. I do not golf, but tried anyway. I was hitting the ball, but not very impressively. He, on the other hand, was hitting it very straight and far. When he watched me, he started laughing. Then proceeded to try to tell me what I should be doing in a not really constructive way. Like, you're not hitting it right. The first time, I laughed along. By the fourth time, I just said, ok that's it, you just sucked all the fun out of it. He proceeded to hit balls for another half hour while I sat there. When he tried to get me to watch him, I just said I was no longer interested in the driving range. He said I was overreacting and being overly sensitive. I said that I did not come there to be laughed at but to try to just have fun, and being laughed at was not fun for me. When he persisted in trying to make me at fault for "taking it wrong", I admit I got sarcastic and said, "OK then the next time you make a stupid remark in public, I will laugh out loud and then tell you what a smart person would have said. Then maybe you can relate". Today, we went out mini golfing again with our daughter. On her first putt, he started laughing again and she got angry. I told him that his laughing hurts our feelings and we have respectfully asked him not to do it. He said, oh sure, overreact and ruin the day. I said, the fact that the laughing hurts our feelings should be sufficient reason for him to stop, and our sensitivity level should not be an issue. He was in a mini funk the rest of the day. Am I being too sensitive? Isn't it fair enough if someone's behavior hurts your feelings to expect them to cut it out? I am tired of being blamed for ruining the day because I am "too sensitive". It isn't just athletic stuff, it's also like when something minorly-bad happens to one of us, like breaking a toy or losing something...happy footnote: our 8 year old WON the mini golf game fair and square.
StayClose Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 It sounds like he is the type to draw his self-esteem from being superior to others. Unfortunately, he has some growing up to do.
directx Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 He sounds what most people like to call 'A dick.' Was he Mr. Jock in high school?
whichwayisup Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 It's one thing to do that to you, a grown adult - But to do that to his own daughter is just plain cruel, especially since he saw her reaction. What a fool!
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