joel Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 ever dated or went out with a girl who had something i would call a double standard. they expect and made indirect comments about myself not owning and having a car and access to a car, when ur a college student who has to pay his own school fees. owning a car in Vancouver is expensive if your not making a lot of money in your p/t 10/hr dead end job. funny thing is the girl(nikki) didn;t even have a car, access to a car or even a drivers licnese. at least i had my drivers license. hey why don't you get a car. another girl i met in college before, was similar to the car incident,but didn't make as much a deal about it. she asked me if i was going to pusue a degree , i wasn;t sure at that time. from talking to her , i can tell she wanted a educated 4 yr degree guy. she even said she wanted a guy with a bachelor degree. funny thing is she doesn't even have a degree, but is a drop out of a community college pracitical nursing 8 month program .lol wow double standard. hey. a car was neccessary too, but talking to them it had to be someting decent. a newer or close to new model car. nothing too old, who nows. i could get a car ,but nothing special and i just don't want the added expense. i work p/t in a 10/hr job and most of the money goes to school fees. college schooling for a degree isn't cheap. 2400 for a semester not including 600 for textbooks. i have female friends who had car , nothing nice -civic, accords and have dated guys who had no cars and also had lower educaiton than them. they hhave a 4 yr univ degree. one of them drove me home from work , and the other i met off the net. they are decent looking and not fat. too bad they aren't interested though. funny thing is these 2 girls weren't hotties(thicker side, obese and chubbyand fat girls) either, probably a 3.5,4 out of 10 according to my friends, my buddy met angela said a -4 lol . why i ask em out. lol easier to get their numbers, and you now they going say oh YESS when u ask em out.funny these thicker girls have high expectations, but aren't really like moedels. you can't even tell b/c both of these girl, were like plain janes, hooodies, no make up, simple dressed and wearing nothing fancy. u think they won't be like that, but they are. i guess it says to tell, you can't tell by looking. i guess i was desperato at that time. lol. i don't care what ppl here say. we are in the 21 st century and its all equal opportunity.girls should have univ degrees now, should have their own car. even if i had a car, i not going be driving you aorund all the time. not like some guys who are doormats do. i could get a car with my money, its just that i chose not to. i got better things to spend my $ on. had any guys had this problem before, girls who lacked something, but expected the guy to have it.
uniqueone Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Ok, you're upset because women are judging you by what you have or don't have. But yet, you're rating women on their looks and weight. You're basically saying that if a woman isn't so hot, she has no right to expect anything. You even mention going out with those types must have meant you were desperate. And yet, you're amazed that they're wanting someone with something practical....like a car. So what do you think it feels like for women to be judged by their looks and given a number on a 10-point scale? Who's really the judgemental one here?
Trialbyfire Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 If you're getting comments you feel are double standards, call the girls on it. Whether they're hot or not, is moot. I will be brutal and say I would never and have never dated a guy without a car or bike but then I've always had my own so it's not a double-standard.
Author joel Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 If you're getting comments you feel are double standards, call the girls on it. Whether they're hot or not, is moot. I will be brutal and say I would never and have never dated a guy without a car or bike but then I've always had my own so it's not a double-standard. well if ur going to school and u have to pay it urself 2500 for a semester and on top of 600 for textsbooks. and you make 10/hr which ain't much you got to wonder why. i be getting a nicer car when i finish my studies, school is more important than some car which depreciate in value. i can get a car, just don't want an added expenses
Trialbyfire Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 well if ur going to school and u have to pay it urself 2500 for a semester and on top of 600 for textsbooks. and you make 10/hr which ain't much you got to wonder why. i be getting a nicer car when i finish my studies, school is more important than some car which depreciate in value. i can get a car, just don't want an added expenses Which is your choice. Just don't stand back and take the crap when someone who really has no future, is denigrating your choices in life.
Author joel Posted August 14, 2007 Author Posted August 14, 2007 funny thing is these two girls nikki and angela, both plump, fatter side girls had these standards. i asked my casual female friends, female aquiantances who are decent looking and toned shaped they don;t mind or even have these set doubel standards. knew a girl who has a univ 4 degree and she has had dated a guy with just a 2 yr diploma. knew guys who had no license, and no car and had gfs and they were decent to hot looking too. funny why these obese fatter side girls had such these standards. btw i'm not even fat at all. 5 feet 7 150lbs. and above average looking. . initially i already could have known what these girls are like just by talking to them. i should have Next them earlier. hilarious hey girls who are a 3 to 4 and their expectation, while a girl in the 6 , 7 wouldn;t even care that much
uniqueone Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 funny thing is these two girls nikki and angela, both plump, fatter side girls had these standards. i asked my casual female friends, female aquiantances who are decent looking and toned shaped they don;t mind or even have these set doubel standards. knew a girl who has a univ 4 degree and she has had dated a guy with just a 2 yr diploma. knew guys who had no license, and no car and had gfs and they were decent to hot looking too. funny why these obese fatter side girls had such these standards. btw i'm not even fat at all. 5 feet 7 150lbs. and above average looking. . initially i already could have known what these girls are like just by talking to them. i should have Next them earlier. hilarious hey girls who are a 3 to 4 and their expectation, while a girl in the 6 , 7 wouldn;t even care that much And what is your numerical rating?
DateAnalyzer Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 ever dated or went out with a girl who had something i would call a double standard. they expect and made indirect comments about myself not owning and having a car and access to a car, when ur a college student who has to pay his own school fees. owning a car in Vancouver is expensive if your not making a lot of money in your p/t 10/hr dead end job. funny thing is the girl(nikki) didn;t even have a car, access to a car or even a drivers licnese. at least i had my drivers license. hey why don't you get a car. another girl i met in college before, was similar to the car incident,but didn't make as much a deal about it. she asked me if i was going to pusue a degree , i wasn;t sure at that time. from talking to her , i can tell she wanted a educated 4 yr degree guy. she even said she wanted a guy with a bachelor degree. funny thing is she doesn't even have a degree, but is a drop out of a community college pracitical nursing 8 month program .lol wow double standard. hey. a car was neccessary too, but talking to them it had to be someting decent. a newer or close to new model car. nothing too old, who nows. i could get a car ,but nothing special and i just don't want the added expense. i work p/t in a 10/hr job and most of the money goes to school fees. college schooling for a degree isn't cheap. 2400 for a semester not including 600 for textbooks. i have female friends who had car , nothing nice -civic, accords and have dated guys who had no cars and also had lower educaiton than them. they hhave a 4 yr univ degree. one of them drove me home from work , and the other i met off the net. they are decent looking and not fat. too bad they aren't interested though. funny thing is these 2 girls weren't hotties(thicker side, obese and chubbyand fat girls) either, probably a 3.5,4 out of 10 according to my friends, my buddy met angela said a -4 lol . why i ask em out. lol easier to get their numbers, and you now they going say oh YESS when u ask em out.funny these thicker girls have high expectations, but aren't really like moedels. you can't even tell b/c both of these girl, were like plain janes, hooodies, no make up, simple dressed and wearing nothing fancy. u think they won't be like that, but they are. i guess it says to tell, you can't tell by looking. i guess i was desperato at that time. lol. i don't care what ppl here say. we are in the 21 st century and its all equal opportunity.girls should have univ degrees now, should have their own car. even if i had a car, i not going be driving you aorund all the time. not like some guys who are doormats do. i could get a car with my money, its just that i chose not to. i got better things to spend my $ on. had any guys had this problem before, girls who lacked something, but expected the guy to have it. well I can understand that, because I don't have a car and prefer to date a female who does but lives at home and I don;t. So it's two people being able to bring something to the table that the other one is lacking.
DateAnalyzer Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 If you're getting comments you feel are double standards, call the girls on it. Whether they're hot or not, is moot. I will be brutal and say I would never and have never dated a guy without a car or bike but then I've always had my own so it's not a double-standard. how can a unattractive female request a guy with a car?
shadowplay Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 you are the reason some women become lesbians.
shadowplay Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 how can a unattractive female request a guy with a car? What does appearance have anything to do with this?
DateAnalyzer Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 What does appearance have anything to do with this? If a female is OBESE, has missing teeth, and not much hair, how in the hell can she say she wants a guy who is driving??? she is bringing nothing to the table and can;t expect much
Trialbyfire Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 how can a unattractive female request a guy with a car? What difference does it make how attractive or unattractive they are? If neither has one of their own, they shouldn't be demanding more from their date than what they have. Understand? On the other hand, if you're saying I'm unattractive, believe what you want...
JCD Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Date someone who likes you for who you are car or no car.
Borginator Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 A chick once didn't go out with me because i didn't have a car. Now i do, she wants me now.
DateAnalyzer Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 What difference does it make how attractive or unattractive they are? If neither has one of their own, they shouldn't be demanding more from their date than what they have. Understand? On the other hand, if you're saying I'm unattractive, believe what you want... If a person is unattractive, that is a major barrier to finding love to begin with so how in the hell can they request a guy with a car? She better be happy to get what she can get
uniqueone Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 If a female is OBESE, has missing teeth, and not much hair, how in the hell can she say she wants a guy who is driving??? she is bringing nothing to the table and can;t expect much How old are you? I'm really hoping that you're young because if you're not and you believe this, then there is something seriously wrong there. Of course I'm guessing that you're pretty young because we're talking here about having a car or not and that's not something that those in my age group discuss. It's a given. She brings nothing to the table, you say??? Right there you're stating that women are looks and looks only. That it doesn't matter if she's funny, smart or kind....only how she looks. Thank heavens you're still young and have time to figure out that women are more than that. And why is it that most men who want a hot women aren't so hot themselves?
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 So you're saying girls who arent stick thin aren't allowed to have high expectations in men?....because they don't starve themselves? So women other than models aren't allowed the best and don't deserve the best....because they have curves? That's pretty shallow. I wouldn't worry about women and double standards...i'd worry about the way you veiw women.... If you date your average woman and she isn't a model...do you treat her less than you would treat a model?...because she doesnt look good enough in your eyes?
DateAnalyzer Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 How old are you? I'm really hoping that you're young because if you're not and you believe this, then there is something seriously wrong there. Of course I'm guessing that you're pretty young because we're talking here about having a car or not and that's not something that those in my age group discuss. It's a given. She brings nothing to the table, you say??? Right there you're stating that women are looks and looks only. That it doesn't matter if she's funny, smart or kind....only how she looks. Thank heavens you're still young and have time to figure out that women are more than that. And why is it that most men who want a hot women aren't so hot themselves? I never looked for someone HOT, just someone HOT to me
uniqueone Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 I never looked for someone HOT, just someone HOT to me And hot to you wouldn't include any internal qualities, I presume. <SIGH> While I still experience the ever-shallow dating world, at least it's not QUITE as bad as you get older.
Trialbyfire Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 If a person is unattractive, that is a major barrier to finding love to begin with so how in the hell can they request a guy with a car? She better be happy to get what she can get That's quite the attitude about what a person is entitled to ask for or demand from another, geared on personal physical attractiveness. You may want to look in the mirror sometime and evaluate yourself by your own self-worth system. From the sounds of it, you won't be able to ask for anything either.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 That's quite the attitude about what a person is entitled to ask for or demand from another, geared on personal physical attractiveness. You may want to look in the mirror sometime and evaluate yourself by your own self-worth system. From the sounds of it, you won't be able to ask for anything either. Here is my suggestion... and we need at least 3 people for this. You help me lift the rock... then somebody push him back under!
uniqueone Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Here is my suggestion... and we need at least 3 people for this. You help me lift the rock... then somebody push him back under! I just laughed out loud at my desk at work! (hey, you know we're just joking don't ya, DA?)
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