someonekillme Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 so i was talking to my girlfriend and she casually mentions how one of her friends has been trying to get her into a threesome with her and her boyfriend. i make jokes about it but then she keeps bringing it up making me realize she's considering. when she realizes how upset i am she says she was 'half joking'. when i go back and read this paragraph it's pretty appartent that it's over but i'd like some feedback...
BlueEyedSarah Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Some people are just curious about having a 3-some. If you don't want to do it then let her know its not your kind of thing. if she keeps bugging you about it then she might be disrespecting you. Its up to you wether or not you can take the preassure of her always talking about the 3 some.
confusedandempty Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 a) Turn the 3-some into 4-some. b) Ask your gf if she can speak to her friend and have threesome with them. Seriously though - My opinion is that threesome is for couple + a single person. It's very disrespectful of her to ask you if you think it's okay and it's also disrespectful of her friend to ask. Just make sure she won't do it anyway.
beautifuldisaster Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Ask her how she would feel if you told her that your friend asked you to have a threesome with him and his gf. I doubt she'd like that too much. That's just plain wrong and disrespectful to you if she was even considering doing it. It sounds like she brought it up to you to see what kind of reaction she'd get from you, kinda looking for permission, which means she was considering it.
outgoing Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 The fact that she told you shows she cares about you and what you think. Leaving her for thinking about having sex with someone else seems a little harsh... Often people become interested in 3somes if they are looking to try something a little different - exciting. If you dont want to loose her why not try and think about adding a little spice to your love life? A romantic walk in a forest followed by a hot quicky - maybe a little bondage? dont look at it as the end of your relationship - just try and imagine how you can keep her excited in you without going else where...
me123 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 what first came to mind when reading your post is that she mentioned that someone brought it up to her, but you didnt express your dissapproval. If I am wrong and you told her you were against it and she still went on about it, then thats not cool and she's not respecting your feelings...but honestly, even myself...I often think a threesome would be exciting or whatever but I dont think i could actually do it. Thinking about threesomes to me is like fantasizing about a celebrity, you know its not going to happen but whats the harm in imagining. Personally, If I was in a relationship with someone I loved, cared about and respected...no matter how exciting a threesome sounds, I couldnt watch him/her touch or be touched by someone else... You need to tell her how much the idea upsets you, and if she still persists she obviousle has different morals/ideals than you...and thats not wrong, but if its not what you're looking for then its wrong for you and will only cause you unneccessary time and energy.
me123 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 just a little side point...if you dont want to go the whole way, why not suggest having sex at the same time as another couple in the same room....I think that would be exciting without the ****ty feelings involved with seeing someone you love being intimate with someone else.....just a thought hehe
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