solo_flyer Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 I had been dating my girlfriend for several months, and then one time when we were together, I withdrew some cash from an ATM. She tried to quietly come up and take the receipt from the ATM, which had my bank account balance written on it! Do you think this is a warning of being a gold digger or is it normal curiosity for a girlfriend who really likes her bf?
Trialbyfire Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Pretty nosy in my books. I would never consider invading a b/f's financial territory.
directx Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 That would IRK me so bad. Thats almost a relationship breaker, seriously. It's not even cute, thought I bet she tried to play it off as such
Author solo_flyer Posted August 12, 2007 Author Posted August 12, 2007 That would IRK me so bad. Thats almost a relationship breaker, seriously. It's not even cute, thought I bet she tried to play it off as such Well I played it off like it was nothing but in my head it was MAJOR alarm sirens. I was pretty fast, she didn't get to see the receipt and I just said "that's not yours" and she didn't seem to react.
huh Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 To put in Mr. Rogers parlance, "Can you say inappropriate? I knew you could!" She shouldn't be looking at your ATM receipts unless you considering engagment or combining households
directx Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Too bad you can't create a phony receipt. Either one showing incredible amounts or cash or another with a 0 or negative balance. Let her see that and watch the show.
boyboy Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I think if she was really a "gold digger" you would've known by now after several months of dating. She was just being curious.
directx Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Yeah, but it's not any more her business than it is of ours. Its rude. She might honestly not realize its rude though. I still like my phony receipt idea
Author solo_flyer Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 I still like my phony receipt idea Yeah that kind of thing occured to me too. Still, I think it's a good screening test for any woman you're dating.
monkey00 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I think it's common for some girls to be nosy, who knows what goes through their heads all day long. As for gold diggers...well you should be able to tell whether she is or not after a couple months of dating. Oh yes, dont forget her dating history such as the type of guys she used to date..which speaks for itself!
amber1 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Wow, I wouldn't even consider doing something like that. Yes, I would say that she sounds like a gold-digger or she is incredibly nosy...both aren't good.
Yamaha Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 If she hasn't shown any other signs of only wanting you for your money then I think she was just being curious. Any women if she is serious about a guy would be curious about his finances. I venture to think if you saw one of her statements lying around you might be curious as to her balance!!
Lauriebell82 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 She might have just been curious, on the other hand it was kind of rude to just swipe the reciept like that. I know how much my bf makes but we have been dating for almost a year, and I could care less how much he makes because I love him. Just because she wants to know how much you make, doesn't make her a goldigger. It may be a bit too early in your relationship to be talking about how much each of you makes, if you are even willing to talk about that. Actually the other day I was going to deposit my paycheck in the bank (i'm working full time for the summer, I'm a grad student so i'm usually broke) and he knows I've been making more lately. Well I had my paycheck folded, but it unfolded a little when I asked my boyfriend to hold it while I looked for a pen. I saw him glance down at it to see how much it was! If there aren't any other warning signs I wouldn't worry about it. If she does something else suspicious than maybe you should consider talking to her about it.
Star Gazer Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Was she perhaps grabbing it because she thought you were going to forget to take it? I see people walk away from ATMs all the time without taking their receipt, and I try to get their attention to give it to them or take it and throw it in the trash.
woodsfield Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 gold digger....maybe. rude....hell yeah! some families talk about money all the time (usually they have alot). i came from a family that NEVER talked about it. some find it rude, others will find it annoying but not a problem. to find out the golddiggerness, you must look at other things in her life, but if she was looking to see how much you have, that could be the tip of the iceberg.
Author solo_flyer Posted August 14, 2007 Author Posted August 14, 2007 Was she perhaps grabbing it because she thought you were going to forget to take it? I see people walk away from ATMs all the time without taking their receipt, and I try to get their attention to give it to them or take it and throw it in the trash. No way, I still hadn't taken the cash from the machine (as it forces you to retrieve the card first) and she was going for the receipt! I have been going over this a lot in my mind. She said things like "women usually make sure the guy make enough money to support her hobbies and habits," and she briefly gloated about how I have "good earning potential" because of my educational background. These things happened over a period of months so I would say that this is not major gold-digging territory. Maybe moderate. But honestly she had some reason to be more concerned than most women because she has a disability and will never be able to hold a full time job. So that would make her terminally dependent on her future husband, whoever he may be, so she would be more dependent on his finances too. Thanks very much for your responses everyone! It is all very helpful!
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