Enderzt Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 To start out I should tell you the back story. My problem started the beginning of Sophomore year in high-school when an absolutely stunning girl moved to our school. I liked her pretty much the second I saw her. Of coarse, I am a shy guy and it was hard going at first. I couldn't think straight when I talked to her. I always felt exposed. But she was a scene girl and she liked the same stuff as me and my friends, so to my immense 'luck' she joined our group. We hung out ALOT. But I started to notice something. ALOT of guys started asking her out. So I backed off, what kinda chance would a guy like me stand with all these popular guys asking her out. But then I noticed she never said yes to any of them. So I started flirting and testing the waters. It wasn't long until my friends start asking me 'hey do you like her?' I just told my friends flat out yes. Again to my "luck" my friends started telling me liked me back. So one day I walked up to her best friend and said, "If I ask her out do you think she would say yes?" She told me definatly. I asked her out late junior year. She said.. "maybe" But to me at the time it was as good as a Yes. EVERY other guy I had seen ask her out, got a no straight away. But.... Three months later and she still hadn't given me an answer. Thats when it all went down hill. I confronted her about it and it turned into a huge fight. I told her it was bull to be stringing me along, and I at-least deserved a yes or a no. And it wasn't fair to keep using me for rides and money. Let's just say I said alot of things I regret... That day was probably the worst day of my life. This is a clip of an aim conversation we had after the fight. "I used to have both your house and cell numbers written on a piece of paper in my wallet incase anything went wrong I could always call you cause I always thought I could count on you but that fight hurt me more than I ever thought any of the friends ive ever had could, dont worry about it though, ill get over it in a few days. And you dont have to apologize or talk to me anymore" She stopped talking to me after that. The next few weeks were a blur. I didn't leave the house, I didn't go ANYTHING. To be honest I barley remember the rest of junior year. I don't know how but somehow my apologies made it through and by the beginning of senior year we were talking again. We did have the same friends. After all we had been through I still liked her as more then a friend. So I decided. Im going to be civil, but I was done. I couldn't hang out with her anymore outside of school. I couldn't keep feeling this way I had to move on. But she kept asking to hang out. So I caved in because I can't say no to her. Over the coarse of senior year I had three girlfriends. All of which ended because my heart just wasn't in them and it wasn't fair to the girls. Then came college. Finally I'll move away. She'll move away and I can start fresh. Forget about her. But that didn't happen. My family ran into money troubles and I couldn't room at the college and had to commute. While she is going to a local community college. So the first year of college I tried to absorb myself in work and school. I ignored all the calls and texts and Im's she sent me and I started to feel as if I was finally done. It worked pretty well until this summer. I saw her at a party drunk kissing some guy who started bragging to his friends about it after she left. As if she was just some prize to gloat about instead of and amazing person. I literally cried for like an hour. Which is alot for the guy who hasn't cried since his dog died when he was 10. Which was obvious proof I STILL wasn't over her And after another five months of not talking she's been calling me alot recently hang out. Woah that was long. Okay so now for the problem at hand. I don't know what to do. Its been four years since I met her. And I can say with full confidence that I LOVE her. And I would NEVER use the word love lightly. We have never even dated or anything much to my chagrin. I can't date other people because I always compare people to her. But she doesn't seem to date.. Anyone. She's like a freaken nun. When I'm with her its amazing. Once I get home from hanging out with her I feel like ****. When I ignore her I feel like ****. And when I try to just get over her I can't. I wish I could just ask her out again but ill just get another maybe or a no. It's been four years and I still think of only her. What can I do?
boyboy Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I think you're too emotional. If you want her, you need to be a man and make a move. If not then you need to get over her and find other women. Even if you manage to date her, I think you'll push her away with your emotional instability. The best thing to do is to get yourself together and stop letting this woman affect you so much. I'm not sure what other advice to give, but that's my take on it.
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