SillyMe74 Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Has anyone here ever felt like you were mismatched with someone but still liked them anyway? Is that always a bad thing when on the surface you and the person you like don't make much sense? I recently started dating a guy at work who is very different from my last ex. I dress up for my job and he doesn't have to, so it already looks pretty odd to see us together, although I think it's cute sometimes because it's odd. We both have our own places and make almost the same salary, both have cars, etc. Some reasons I think we are mismatched are because for example, he watches sports and I have never dated guys who are into sports (didn't avoid it, just ended up that way), while I'm more into books and art..he drinks more than I do..we have different taste in movies..that type of thing..basically even though no one has said anything to me about him or us, I know he's not the person people close to me would picture me ending up with. He's not an intellectual but not everyone can be. He's not stupid or anything, just average intelligence, I guess. My family and friends would probably rather see me with a guy who has to wear a suit to work and pays for every little thing, not someone who wears shorts and t-shirts every day and can't pay for me all the time because he has a mortgage and bills (doesn't everyone have bills?) But I don't even LIKE when guys pay for me all the time because I like my independence and I don't like to feel 'kept' or as if I'm in someone's debt. I've always been like that. This guy pays when he can and usually offers to but I usually insist on paying my way. It doesn't really bother me if a guy doesn't make as much as I do or drive some fancy car. All that really matters to me is if the guy can support himself without me helping, and if he treats me nicely. I don't need guys always buying me stuff (gifts for no reason) either; it makes me uncomfortable. Another thing is he has a rep for being a player at work because he has dated work people but I have dated even more people at work than he has (does that make me a player?!) so I don't really hold that against him. I figure nobody is perfect and I have my own jaded past that would give me a bad rep if people knew about it. When we started going out, neither of us knew where it was going, just that we liked being around each other. That was a few weeks ago and now it seems we can't get enough of each other. We spend the night together a lot and text incessantly (neither of us are phone call people). He has said things here and there, about how much he likes me and how he doesn't even think about being with other girls anymore, that I'm perfect for him and I make him want to be a better man, etc. But I try not to let that get to me and believe it because I'm still not sure where this is going. So he's not the kind of guy I normally date and my family will probably always be stuck on my last boyfriend, but I just like being with this one. When people say "Just have fun with it, don't take it seriously, enjoy yourself" it's hard to do that because we seem to get closer every day. I feel like I'm getting sucked in against my will because I want to be with him all the time and he does with me too. I'd even go as far as to say we both want to say the L word but we both hold back because we don't want to ruin anything. How can this ever work? Do people always have to be extremely similar in order for it to work out?
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