frd150 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 HEy Frd, hope your good. If im honest and after thinking about it i guess i like her, even though she drove me nuts!! Yup...Good and bad. Its monday and we are both off of work. I wonder what shes doing? I guess i could make a list of things that drove me nuts but no ones perfect and for our next relationships we need to remember that.
stedman15 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I can honestly say that I did not particularly like my ex. I was caught in a situation where I cared about her in the beginning, and then started trying to help her fix her life. I realized that I couldn't do it. She had no desire to change, so I couldn't make her do anything. She also engaged in some very shady conduct after we broke up (hooking up with tons of guys, acting irrationally, etc.) I do not like her, and I wouldn't be friends with her.
Woggle Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I can honestly say that I did not particularly like my ex. I was caught in a situation where I cared about her in the beginning, and then started trying to help her fix her life. I realized that I couldn't do it. She had no desire to change, so I couldn't make her do anything. She also engaged in some very shady conduct after we broke up (hooking up with tons of guys, acting irrationally, etc.) I do not like her, and I wouldn't be friends with her. At least she didn't trash you on her talk show. I'm sorry I just couldn't resist with your screen name.
alpha70 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 You can't change anyone. I tried to "fix" my ex as well, but when someone has moved houses 34 times....well, doesn't that say something? They are mentally who they are and they need to work their stuff out, not us for them. Can't help that they've been cheated on by other men or that their dad's mentally abused the hell out of them. BUT, you sure will know how it will affect YOUR relations with her..........you won't be able to win. You won't do everything right and eventually she'll look for a way out.......can't handle a relationship that is trying to be healthy. Sometimes unhealthy people want to stay that way because they thrive on that drama/stress....my ex did and does. I wished her luck, told her I would miss her and that was that.
In Sync Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 To be quite honest and I've had plenty of time to reflect on this question...I didn't like him. No doubt I was heart broken and a mess and nearly begged him not to break it off (oh the memory of that is a toughie)...and even thought I loved him like no other but now it's clear that I completely deluded myself into thinking that he was the one I loved. I suppressed all aspects of him that I didn't like or respect in order to justify my "loving" and staying with him. If I had the clarity I had now to understand I was doing that perhaps I wouldn't tolerated disrespect from him.
blind_otter Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 You know i was sitting out in the garden in my new sun lounger, and was thinking, no dought i loved my ex, but did i like her as a person?? Omg, i dont think i did! in fact she drove me nuts! How many of you here after they see the ex for what they are would truly say that they acually like the ex as a person!!! ? think about it b4 you answer. no dought you love her/him but did you like? I'm the other way around. Now that I'm in a stable relationship with my SO I look back and have fond memories of my ex lovers. I'm on good terms with most of them (now) and I like them as people. I just didn't truly love them. And that's why my past relationships failed (among other things, har har har)
discoverychannel Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Hmmm... NO. Now that I have seen his true colors after the break up. But thinking back with a clear mind, we had nothing in common. Our personality didn't match, and he was selfish immature and a big flirt even while in the relationship. But that aside I would like him as a friend. He's not a good lover, but a good friend who would listen and care (or atleast pretend to). Now I wish we never ruin'd the friendship.
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