simplegirl Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 OK, my MM has been talking about leaving with me for the last month but with everyone else for the last 6 months. In the 3 years we've been together it has never been really talked about. There are some verbal abuse issues going on with his oldest son that is not W's. It's really bad and his family has had enough too. He's stayed because they have 2 kids together but he is realizing this is destroying his other child (he has custody of him). He is now trying to figure out what to do with his house. They are not married but they bought a house and car in both their names. He's not really worried about the car but he is about the house. She was going to move out but then changed her mind and said she is going to stay but she is not paying for it so she'll have to be kicked out. He doesn't want to screw up his credit with a foreclosure. My suggestion was to put it up for sale but apparently they have something in the mortgage that they can't sell for 3 years and it hasn't been that long yet. Any ideas anyone? The one thought I had was that he could move out but put the house payment aside and when it goes into foreclosure go in and pay it up. She would already be out by then. I don't know if that would work or not but I don't have any advice for him. She doesn't work right now so even with her child support I don't think she be able to pay for the house, the utilities and the car. Even if she got a job I don't know if she could pay for all that. Ideas anyone?
tinktronik Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 I would tell him to be careful. Many times in court with cp the judge can order that the father of the children keep the children in the lifestyle that they are accustomed to.
whichwayisup Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Tell him to talk to someone else about this stuff. You have too much invested interest and can't give him objective advice. Hate to say this, but what he decides to do with the house, if she stays or not, isn't your business to get involved. FACT that they have two children together, he isn't going to kick her out of the house, the mother of his children...TRUST me on that one. If she has nowhere to go, no job, he won't kick her out.....
Author simplegirl Posted August 12, 2007 Author Posted August 12, 2007 I know he won't kick her out and I wouldn't expect him to. He just knows he has to do something before the situation with his oldest child gets anymore out of hand. It has only been verbal stuff but it is getting a lot worse.
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