katy_katt Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I need some advice. I just came to the realization that I've been in a controlling relationship and now I want to end it. We've been together for about 3 years, we've been living together for 2 of those years and the controlling behavior has just seemed to manifest within the last year or so. It wasn't until both my mom and best friend told me that I was never myself around him, and that he seemed to control me that I realized this was true. The problem is, there's nowhere for me to go, and there's nowhere for him to go. I would just move out as it would make breaking apart so much easier, but there's a major housing crisis in our town right now and finding another place for myself to live is virtually impossible. I have too much stuff (furniture and 2 cats) to impose on a friend for a while, and right now I'm really broke, too. I just don't have the money to spare for a damage deposit and rent on a new place (I don't know anyone who could help me financially either). If he moves out I can't afford to live in this place on my own. Plus, we just moved to this city and I had spent a good year trying to convince him to move here, and he has no way to move back to his hometown...which is 6 hours away. So it's not like he can just pack his things and go. And I keep trying to break up with him. I keep trying to tell him that it's not working out and one of has to leave, but it's really hard to get out of a relationship with someone who makes you feel like a piece of sh*t whenever you bring up what's wrong with the relationship. He doesn't think he's doing everything wrong, and just turns it around on me. We usually just end up staying together because there's nothing else to do, but the both of us tend to spend our time together not saying much, both of us very moody and there is no affection left in our relationship...I start getting angry and upset and I cry a lot and it's just not healthy. I don't know what to do!
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