bolt_blue Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I was recentley dating a girl for serveral months who I absolutley adored, I would of done anything for her, all other things in my life seemed irrelevant, it was as if I was frozen in time with her, a truly beautifull thing. After a few months she started acting strange, she would go quiet all the time and there was a very sharp decrease in intimacy, it was always me going to her for a hug or kiss never the other way around, there was a time when we were constantly holding each other and now it just seemed a thing of the past. I went out of my mind for weeks and whenever I questioned her about it she would lose her temper and would only make things worse and I would still be left clueless regarding her behaviour. After a while a piece of jewellery I bought her was left on the table and she stopped wearing it, it was at this point that I knew she was not interested in me anymore and it tore me apart (and still does).A few days later and she said she didnt want a relationship with me anymore and that I should move out, I begged her not to but it was an impossible task. The happiest days of my life were spent with her and I just dont understand why she suddenly changed, we could of had a great future together but instead she decided to end this truly wonderful thing we had. A week later I text her begging for us to be together again. but she just said we dont have enough in common and that i should move on. I feel totally used and rejected by the one woman I have ever loved. I have since become really depressed and drink copious amounts of alcohol to cope, a bad idea I know but whenever I look at a photo of us i tremble and feel very dizzy as well as butterflies in my stomache. Now Im dreading the fact shes gonna meet someone else and it will just make the suffering even worse, I wake up at 5am every morning and its always from a dream Ive had of her or us, things she said just repeat themselves in my head and I keep thinking of when we were so happy in each other. Im going out of my mind, things that used to make me happy before i met her have become boring and mundane so its like im stuck in this moment forever, constantly heart broken. How do I forget about her, how do I make the pain stop and leave me alone so i can pick up my life again.
Poboy Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 go no contact , throw away all the things you have of her or bought together etc. whenever you have thoughts of her , do something or think of something else. keep busy with work , friends , family etc. pick up a new activity , hobby. it will take time for you to move on. seek proffesional help if alcohol is going out of hand. its just one girl , no point in ruining your life over one person. look forward to the future and meeting someone new & special.
funkybassplayer Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 It seems to me that you are feeling this so bad as of course its a loss of relationship, but you also invested yourself into her, which suggests to mee that you have become dependant on her for your happyness. Try to stop drinking, no good, drink water instead. You have to let her go, but look to your self, and try to do things on your own, whatever it maybe. You have to know your own self worth b4 getting into another relationship. Also you feel used etc b/c you invested yourself in her, and she has for wahtever reson decided that she does not want you in her life. She has no control over your emotions, and their is no need for you to feel this way, as she walked away from you. U give to her b/c you loved her, and not b/c you want something in return, so the used bit really is in your head? can you see this? you have to let that go, and really look after your health. no one is worth losing that for, and if you know how, this experiance can teach you alot about yourself, and you can learn and grow from this. Take care.
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