DateAnalyzer Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 BOOTH or Directly across from her. I think If I sit on a ANGLE, the side of her, I won't be as nervous. The sitting directly across from her at a table just gives me the job interview type of feel. What do you guys think?
Arizona100 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I think thats funny I usually sit on the side. Face to face it's too direct for me
Tony T Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 BOOTH or Directly across from her. I think If I sit on a ANGLE, the side of her, I won't be as nervous. The sitting directly across from her at a table just gives me the job interview type of feel. What do you guys think? Your date is a fallible human being. What is there to be nervous about? You are FAR MORE LIKELY TO BE REJECTED if a date senses you are nervous than if you act purely goofy the entire evening. Neither men nor women find it attractive or sexy for someone to be nervous around them. Both like confident, relaxed fellow humans while on a date. I think worrying about where you're going to sit with your date is going a bit far. If you have to give this a lot of thought, you shouldn't be dating...or you need to consult with a therapist or dating expert to learn dating skills and what the opposite sex finds attractive.
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Yikes D-A. Pretty soon you'll be analyzing if you should or shouldn't part your hair, before a date. Please stop this over-analyzing and relax. I have a date tonight and plan to relax and enjoy it with no expectations beyond having a great time. I think you need to just go on a few dates so they don't seem to be such great obstacles to connect with someone.
squeak Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Question for all the posters looking at this thread: Do you think it would work in data analyzers favor if at some point he let his dates know that side of him that analyzes everything? He could entertain them for hours giving examples of his data and conclusions. It'll turn off the wrong ones for him, but the right one will be entertained. I think if he did it right, he could have a girl in the palm of his hand. It's the "working with what you have " theory I just don't think he should hide this aspect of himself and congeal into some bland homogenized version of normalacy. What does everyone think?
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Oh..my...god...squeak. What a great idea! You just made me burst out laughing.
melodymatters Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Great Idea squeak ! Way to think outside the box. And TBF, I hope you have a LOVELy relaxing date : just remember to only blink16 times a minute, and breathe every 4 seconds, LOL
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 I'm just trying to put myself in the best position to create a spark. By sitting on a angle, that will allow her to notice my sexy smelling cologne and on top of good flowing conversation. So i will see what happens n the future, it dosn't appear I will have another date in the month of August so I just better get pepared for the fall season
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Great Idea squeak ! Way to think outside the box. And TBF, I hope you have a LOVELy relaxing date : just remember to only blink16 times a minute, and breathe every 4 seconds, LOL Ahahahaha...mm, too funny. He's got such a wicked sense of humour and is my type to the T, so I'm not certain this is possible. More than likely I will be hyperventilating.
Art_Critic Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I'm just trying to put myself in the best position to create a spark. By sitting on a angle, that will allow her to notice my sexy smelling cologne and on top of good flowing conversation. So i will see what happens n the future, it dosn't appear I will have another date in the month of August so I just better get pepared for the fall season Changing your physical position won't alter anything.. it might even make you look weird if you don't sit in front of her and look at her... Why not stop the face to face at a table and do a first date that you don't have to have the exact face to face ? Putt Putt Golf ?.. Maybe a sporting event such as a baseball game.. An outdoor concert.. That way you can relax some.. oh.. stop this analyzing stuff.. women can smell smell a mile away and in your case they most likely smell your fear from the get go.. Also.. Why not tell them you are nervous ?..That way you get a free pass
underpants Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 DA, You crack me up. I envision you sitting in all possible ramifications of positions and gauging each with an awaited response. Have you thought of the Mork from Ork stance. Surely this would be original. I actually liked squeaks idea. This opens up the conversation with honesty and the right analytical girl might bite. I would make your analysis about non relationship/date stuff though. I am sure this thinking has to spill over into other Seinfeld areas of life. Art critic has a great point too about the nervous admission. This could very well break the ice and give her the opportunity to make you feel at ease. Don't wear too much cologne.
JamesM Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Actually, I think sitting next to her sets you up for more failure. Here is why...if you sit across from her, You can hide your nerves easier. She cannot see your knocking knees. She cannot see your legs. When you sit across from her, all she sees is your upper half. This leaves you with more of a "fort" to protect you. Why can you not view your dates as friends and not potential mates? It has been awhile since I dated, but I do remember this...all first dates are nerve wracking I know, but the ones with friends are much less so. My point is...the more you "pretend" that this is just a dinner with a friend, the more you will relax and be successful. The less that you analyze her and your every move, the more that you will enjoy yourself and the more she will enjoy herself. The best advice I can give you for a date is to see it as practice for the next one. Sooner or later, it will be the next one, but you will only realize it after you realize that she IS the one. As for the "turn her on with my cologne smell" logic, that doesn't fly. Unless you know for a fact that the woman you are with likes your cologne, this is not a factor. In fact, if she doesn't like your cologne, you could lose points. I know of women who like certain colognes, but my wife does not share that sentiment. The only colognes that I wear/have worn that appeals to the broadest spectrum of women has been these two" Halston Z14 and Polo (green bottle). None of the other colognes has appealed to more than a few women.
Krytellan Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 DA, what I think you would benefit from more than anything else is an alternative dating environment. I just recently went on a second date to a mountain park and we each brought our dog and we just had a little picnic. There was stimulus around as a pleasant distractor (scenery, other dogs, sunset). My dog was there to focus my attention on if I needed to, and the presence of 2 dogs made the situation way more casual and not so focused on the "2 people on a date" aspect. Though your situation will vary, I really think you should consider going the interactive date route. Not only is it less pressure, but it's usually cheaper than a sit-down dinner with drinks. Consider it.
squeak Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 DA, Don't wear too much cologne. It's too late, he's probably already out. Damn....cologne=bad news
SadandConfusedWA Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 >> I thought of sitting on an ANGLE on Dates Oh Jesus... As for cologne, a man scores huge points with me if he wears something that I like. Having said that, if he is wearing a bad cologne it's most definetly a turn off.
Trialbyfire Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 It's too late, he's probably already out. Damn....cologne=bad news I don't know. There are some Armani colognes to die for. A little bit goes a long way.
KingCrimson Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Don't wear cologne. Just wear whatever deodorant you normally wear, and don't smell bad. I wouldn't want a girl dumb enough to be seduced by the smell of my cologne. lol, what kind of superficial girl take points off a guy if she doesn't like the smell of his cologne? I can understand him having nasty BO, but making a judgment on cologne usage? If you end up in a long term relationship with this girl, move in with her, or get married, are you going to be wearing cologne 24/7 - even while sitting on the couch watching TV or before going to bed? No.
squeak Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Well, okay, that's just my preference then. DA should do whatever he thinks best. I retract my cologne statement!
jerbear Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 sitting on an angle doesn't help on a date unless it is the Nth date not the first few. Heck it doesn't even give a suave moment of "moving in" closer! LOL The cologne is nice but there are so many to choose from. Also takes time to find the right one. Avoid the fruity and flowery ones and the super musky ones too. Too much cologne can actually backfire when it comes to sweat, cotton all mixing with your own subtle BO. Don't bath in it, just spritz some on the collar. If the rest of the restaurant can smell it, you've put on too much.
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