slept with ex, then stayed up all night in same bed. Can i tell my boyfriend?

[Vixen763]

i do understand that just talking about it once aint enough...i am going to work hard at rebuilding trust and working on the relationship. trust me i can never get myself anywhere close to anything like this and betraying someone i love..... never!

[4whatItsWorth]

This is going to sound cruel...but I don't think you will ever last. I "only" KISSED another guy on the lips (no tongue) and told my boyfriend about my "mistake" and he never EVER forgave me. He gave me HELL for the following two years, letting me know how awful and repulsive and non-loveable I was, he brought me down to nothing.

 

You did way worse than I did, so I can only assume your road will be even dirtier than mine. I know I learned to never "go astray" ever again...hope you learned to do the same.

[Vixen763]

I have certainly thought that as well...we have talked through all this and either i am alucky gal or something but, he deeply thinks he knows me too well and understands why i went ahead and betrayed him in a way. He is not being blaming in any way that sometimes i do feel guilty that he doesnt bring it up but wants us to build our relationship...we are friends, close for over a decade and a half...

 

Do you think that might make things a little easier on me and on him and us...

 

i do appreciate your concern there

[bish]

I have certainly thought that as well...we have talked through all this and either i am alucky gal or something but, he deeply thinks he knows me too well and understands why i went ahead and betrayed him in a way.

 

well he may just expect you to understand if he does it back to you.

 

So you say he "understands" why you betrayed him...so you must think there was a reason and justification for it too right?

[Vixen763]

well he may just expect you to understand if he does it back to you.

 

So you say he "understands" why you betrayed him...so you must think there was a reason and justification for it too right?

 

 

Bish, i wnat to advise you to study Literature because you are not helpful to me, atleast. all you do is inter-edit what i have written just so you can find something with which to bite me....I dont think you have been any helpful surely....lots of people have criticized my actions in ways that ahve given me an opportunity to re-evaluate myself...Not you...But tahnx anyway. perhaps you could try helping other people on the forum

[bish]

Bish, i wnat to advise you to study Literature because you are not helpful to me, atleast. all you do is inter-edit what i have written just so you can find something with which to bite me....I dont think you have been any helpful surely....lots of people have criticized my actions in ways that ahve given me an opportunity to re-evaluate myself...Not you...But tahnx anyway. perhaps you could try helping other people on the forum

 

For someone who is trying to convey a level of education to suggest someone else "study Literature", you don't spell very well.

 

If you are going to profess some kind of intellectual superiority, make sure you actually are intellectually superior first.

[Vixen763]

For someone who is trying to convey a level of education to suggest someone else "study Literature", you don't spell very well.

 

If you are going to profess some kind of intellectual superiority, make sure you actually are intellectually superior first.

 

 

I am sorry, i actually wanted to say/mean that you should teach literature in some college, not study. Because all you do is read between the lines, the semantics and all that. You are not any helpful...so i repeat, enrol in some college/university and teach literature...your posts are not helpful to me..they convey hatred for someone you dont even know...how nice