Mahatma Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Something happened in my life which left me in shock for a while. During this time, a girl I had always been attracted to, on many levels, started talking to me and getting close to me. Why she started doing it, I'm not quite sure. I was so involved with what happened to me I kinda pushed it off but she didn't stop coming on to me. So, eventually, we started talking more on the phone and such and started to get closer, howerver, I was still not myself because of what happened so I ended up telling her I liked her(Ya.. I know STUPID)... at the time I needed to reach out to someone and I feel like I scared her away. But why would this have scared her off? She was the one coming onto me for almost a month before I had the wits to realise it since I was so out of it and finally started showing interest back. Everything was there, the easy talking, touching, eye-to-eye contact, very similar interests. Then we stopped talking for a while because she just didn't seem to want to and I know when the mind has been made, its made. chasing will never change anything. So after something like 3 or 4 weeks of not talking to her she texts while I'm gone on vacation and says some junk like "hey just seeing how youre doin and making sure you don't hate me" ...hmm... is there a reason I should hate you? What did I miss here? By the time she sent the message I had completely forgotten about her and this just re-started the whole problem. THANKFULLY, I couldn't message her back because I was roaming and my phone wont send anything while roaming. So I had some time to gather thoughts before sending something stupid back. I ended up texting back a couple days later saying my summer was goin good and asked about hers. I never got a reply back. When I call her, she always picks up and we talk and she seems to be happy to talk to me, but is it just an act? Part of me feels like she was flirting with me to make this other guy jealous who liked her too. But I just cant read her and don't know what really went wrong. Anyways, it's been about a month+ since we last talked and I've just totally given up on the whole thing... I'm more curious what was up with her? Was the whole problem telling her my feelings after a month of her coming on to me? I did not tell her I was in LOVE with her, just that I wanted a relationship... or was it something else I'm missing?
Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 It sounds to me like she wanted to get your attention and she did, once she had it she moved on but comes back once again to make sure it is still there. Forget about her and move on to something else.
yergawd Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 It sounds to me like she wanted to get your attention and she did, once she had it she moved on but comes back once again to make sure it is still there. Forget about her and move on to something else. BINGO. Look at when she calls you it's probably when she feels like you are losing interest. I've known too many girls like this. They love the attention and knowing you are there if they want. I also wonder if some insecure girls have the idea that they need a back up. I had one girl that would act like this to the nth degree. Playful and fun and flirtatious when it suited her. But was at her most obnoxious when I would ignore her. She'd pull me back in and once she felt I was into her she'd push me away. I was a chump and allowed this pull-push thing to go on way too long. Finally I was to the point where I had to be rude to get her to go away. Ignoring her only made her persue, even just being nice but distant made her worse. Take my advice here RUN FORREST!!! RUN!!
Author Mahatma Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 Seems like I've taken minimal damage then. I thought this was the case because she did a very similar thing to the guy I was talking about earlier. I left that out to see if that was still how everyone felt. Anyways, thanks for the response.
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