charliepapa Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I was at my sisters wedding recently and despite the fact that I had a good time and danced for half the night with most of the women on the dance floor. Although there was one common demoninator, they were all attached. All my cousins are coupled and I am the eldest male and second eldest cousin. I seems that I may never find a partner and the longest relationship to date lasted a month, that was 5 months ago and of course have not had sex since. I am 33 and Basically 9 out of 10 of my the people I know are attached from Work to family. If there is something wrong with me, I don't know what it is. p.s. there also will be several marriages over the coming years amongst my cousins and I fear it will be the same situation for every one. I have twenty Cousins from 10 to 32 years of age including my brother who every woman seems spread there legs for. Is there anyone is in the same situation?
norajane Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Sure, this happens as you get older - people get attached and marry and start families. No big surprise. You should probably try to meet some more single people - there are plenty of them out there too! Join some clubs or activity groups and start making new friends. You won't feel so left out if you get to know more single people.
roxy_1980 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Like NJ said, you're getting to the age when people get hitched. But that doesn't mean that there are absolutely no women left. They are just not in your immediate group of friends, so you're gonna have to get out of your comfort level and go and meet new people. Hey, look at it this way, in a few years if you haven't found the woman you want to marry, there will likely a second wave. Half of those couples will likely be divorced. Alot of people get married in their late 20s / early 30s because that is what is expected of them from society, family, because everyone else is doing it, etc. Don't feel you have to because everyone else is. Better to make a choice that lasts a lifetime than rush into something that is doomed from the start. You have plenty of time to find the right person. Relax.
uniqueone Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Hey, look at it this way, in a few years if you haven't found the woman you want to marry, there will likely a second wave. Half of those couples will likely be divorced.[.quote] Haha..you beat me to what I was going to say! Alot of people get married in their late 20s / early 30s because that is what is expected of them from society, family, because everyone else is doing it, etc. Don't feel you have to because everyone else is. Better to make a choice that lasts a lifetime than rush into something that is doomed from the start. Yup...such a time of pressure. It starts to feel like "the cheese stands alone" (am I the only one here who remembers The Farmer and the Dell?) Horrible period. Then, after awhille, you start seeing all the divorces or unhappy marriages and suddenly you start to feel much better!
Author charliepapa Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 Hey, look at it this way, in a few years if you haven't found the woman you want to marry, there will likely a second wave. Half of those couples will likely be divorced Nope, there probably wont be any divorces in my family. Catholic - and we are all completely dysfunctional and the women and men have plenty of support from each other (the women have this group called the fart sisters). We know the marriages will not be perfect, but that is family. One divorce in my whole extended family and that is over twenty marriages. My brother and a couple of my cousins are probably next over the next couple of years. I at least would like a woman to take but that ain't going to happen. I feel like such a reject. I am attractive and a good person, just shy. You should probably try to meet some more single people - there are plenty of them out there too! Join some clubs or activity groups and start making new friends. You won't feel so left out if you get to know more single people. That is what I am trying to do and have been doing Latin dance for over three years casually, but no woman wants anything to do with me and of course the pool of available women is diminishing. At least I owned the dance floor at the wedding.
roxy_1980 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 And you'd want to marry someone that was previously involved with someone in your family because?
Author charliepapa Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 Roxy - I dont want anything to do romantically with any of those women. where did you get that from? I am not attracted to them anyway.
roxy_1980 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Well, I said that there is hope that there will be a second wave of women and then all of a sudden you are talking about the likelihood of divorce in your family.
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