CrazyPanda Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 So my old girlfriend and i has been going out for the past 3 years. Now she began having feelings for another guy out of the blue and i told her that i would give her time to figure things out if she really wants to go and try to be with him or stay with me. A few days ago I get a letter, which i hate getting, saying that she has moved on and her feelings for me are gone. I called and meet her face to face to see if she ment it. No clear answer, but i told her that if she really has moved on then i would respect her decision and allow her to go on with her life. I told her maybe one day we can be friends but by looking at her face, she pretty much told me no. Now here's the weird thing, we work at the same place and accidently we meet at the lunch area. I moved to an empty table and then she moved her stuff over to my table. I guess she wanted to talk so we just had a normal conversation. I thought maybe she just talked to me beause there was no one else she knew... I'm also unsure if this made us friends or her trying to be friends again... The very next night she IM'ed me and we end up chatting about random stuff for an hour. I'm really lost, I don't contact her and only carry conversations with her if she initiates it. I'm still heartbroken she told me that her feelings for me are gone so quickly but I still love and care about her. I'm not sure what's going on, she is really this quick on being friends? Or is she trying to come back but not really saying it to me? Remember, there is still another boy shes thinking about at the same time.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Yes, she wants to use you as a friend... an emotional attachment. Girls do this all day long. She moved on, now you move on... that doesnt mean you cant still be friends.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 As long as you still have feelings for her as a girlfriend, and want to be back with her as a girlfriend you can not be friends. Let her know that if she wants to be a true friend to you, she will stop hurting you by imposing herself on you - and that perhaps one day, when you are healed and moved on perhaps you can be friends, but not until then. If she lets you go, then she has your best interests in mind and is acting like a friend. If she insists on keeping you around, regardless of how much it hurts you then she is being selfish and nowhere near a 'friend'.
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