PoshPrincess Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Ok, I am sitting here at the computer and looking thorugh the pics of available men on one of these dating websites. Let me first state yuck. Anyway, a funny thought crossed my mind. What if I took pic of my xmm and posted him on one of these sites and provided his e-mail information etc. I dont think I could actually do it but, it made me laugh. Has anyone else ever thought about revenge on XMM because they made you hurt so badly when it was done and over with? Haha, I often feel like getting revenge on exMM but would never do it! Stupidly I love him too much to hurt him and, even if I didn't, anything I did would just hurt his family even more and I couldn't do that. But, yes, it's a laugh thinking about these things. My friend and I have chats about what we would do. MM bought me a 'rabbit' when we were together and it has already broken (don't ask!) I said I should've sent it back in the post to his house and written him a note asking him to exchange it for me. I have always liked GEL's theory about 'the best revenge is living well'. I would like to think I will get my revenge on MM one day. And yeah, karma. It will happen.
bish Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Ok, I am sitting here at the computer and looking thorugh the pics of available men on one of these dating websites. Let me first state yuck. Anyway, a funny thought crossed my mind. What if I took pic of my xmm and posted him on one of these sites and provided his e-mail information etc. I dont think I could actually do it but, it made me laugh. Has anyone else ever thought about revenge on XMM because they made you hurt so badly when it was done and over with? Maybe the wife could do the same thing to you seeing as how you were an accomplice to her pain. Funny how people want revenge for being hurt...but forget about the pain they caused others.
IWALH Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Maybe the wife could do the same thing to you seeing as how you were an accomplice to her pain. Funny how people want revenge for being hurt...but forget about the pain they caused others. I don't think H&A forgot about the pain she caused to the wife. This was just the forefront of her thoughts and what the topic of the post was about. Personally, the pain I caused the w and kids and eventually my daughter (for not being able to know her siblings) hurts me much more than anything xMM ever did to hurt me.
Tomcat33 Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 I have thought about this so many times, it's a great idea! Would I act on it NO WAY. But oh do I love my fantasies!!!! :D The best revenge, is revenge.
Meaplus3 Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Ok, I am sitting here at the computer and looking thorugh the pics of available men on one of these dating websites. Let me first state yuck. Anyway, a funny thought crossed my mind. What if I took pic of my xmm and posted him on one of these sites and provided his e-mail information etc. I dont think I could actually do it but, it made me laugh. Has anyone else ever thought about revenge on XMM because they made you hurt so badly when it was done and over with? I must admit that that I've had silly thought's about setting a giant weed free on his most perfect lawn (xmm lives right nextdoor) but no I would never do that it's just not right. AP:)
RealityCheck Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 I must admit that that I've had silly thought's about setting a giant weed free on his most perfect lawn (xmm lives right nextdoor) but no I would never do that it's just not right. AP:) I took a louville slugger to bold head lights, slashed a hole in all four tires, carved my name into his leather seat ~Carrie Underwood~ LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Meaplus3 Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 I took a louville slugger to bold head lights, slashed a hole in all four tires, carved my name into his leather seat ~Carrie Underwood~ LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO And now for the rest of the song! "Mabey next time he'll think before he cheat's". Ha, Ha:lmao: AP:)
outofdarkness Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I must admit that that I've had silly thought's about setting a giant weed free on his most perfect lawn (xmm lives right nextdoor) but no I would never do that it's just not right. AP:) Am no an OW, but DO love to garden, so this post really cracked me up!!!LOL
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 16, 2007 Author Posted August 16, 2007 I took a louville slugger to bold head lights, slashed a hole in all four tires, carved my name into his leather seat ~Carrie Underwood~ Love that song, funny thing,he told me the other day each time the W hears it she makes a statment to him that she could have done that to his MB.
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 16, 2007 Author Posted August 16, 2007 Maybe the wife could do the same thing to you seeing as how you were an accomplice to her pain. Funny how people want revenge for being hurt...but forget about the pain they caused others. Now it was just a thought, and trust me when I say that I do feel her pain each and every time she calls, sends me pics of him or flowers to office from him.
bish Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I have thought about this so many times, it's a great idea! Would I act on it NO WAY. But oh do I love my fantasies!!!! :D The best revenge, is revenge. Funny you should mention that....cuz I remember posting about how the best revenge was looking good, and you told me I was abusing my cheating wife by enjoying working out and feeling good about myself.
Tomcat33 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Funny you should mention that....cuz I remember posting about how the best revenge was looking good, and you told me I was abusing my cheating wife by enjoying working out and feeling good about myself. yeah well it's one thing to fantasise about it and a completely other thing to actually do it. And you know very well that is not what I said before, what I thought was abusive was the notion that you enjoyed letting your W feel insecure about the fact that you were working out to get more attention from other women. NOT that you were working out. It was the fact that despite you were choosing to stay in the marriage with her and to "forgive"her because that's what staying with someone after a betrayel means, it means forgiveness, that you were doing things in your power to create more animosity. That to me is revenge, doing something that you know hurts another person for the sole purpose of getting back at them.
bish Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 yeah well it's one thing to fantasise about it and a completely other thing to actually do it. And you know very well that is not what I said before, what I thought was abusive was the notion that you enjoyed letting your W feel insecure about the fact that you were working out to get more attention from other women. NOT that you were working out. Ah, but YOUR type of revenge is ok, right? That to me is revenge, doing something that you know hurts another person for the sole purpose of getting back at them. But its ok for you to engage in revenge but not me? And besides, as you know but don't care to see...I didn't start the fight about me working out. She did. But of course you don't care about that since you are a cheater's champion here at LS.
PoshPrincess Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Ah, but YOUR type of revenge is ok, right? But its ok for you to engage in revenge but not me? And besides, as you know but don't care to see...I didn't start the fight about me working out. She did. But of course you don't care about that since you are a cheater's champion here at LS. I think TC said that she only fantasised about revenge, but didn't put it into practice! Bish, I can't say I blame you for getting your revenge the way you did. In the aftermath of your W having an A I think it's perfectly acceptable to try and prove yourself to her and for you to want to feel good about yourself. It COULD be destructive but then again it could make her see what she was risking!
Cobra_X30 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 yeah well it's one thing to fantasise about it and a completely other thing to actually do it. And you know very well that is not what I said before, what I thought was abusive was the notion that you enjoyed letting your W feel insecure about the fact that you were working out to get more attention from other women. NOT that you were working out. It was the fact that despite you were choosing to stay in the marriage with her and to "forgive"her because that's what staying with someone after a betrayel means, it means forgiveness, that you were doing things in your power to create more animosity. That to me is revenge, doing something that you know hurts another person for the sole purpose of getting back at them. Tough love. Sometimes you need to let others know there are consequences to thier actions. Personally, I would spend my time cleaning my guns and sharpening shovels, perhaps that might create a feeling of insecurity. But then I never claimed to be as nice as Bish!
bish Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I think TC said that she only fantasised about revenge, but didn't put it into practice! Bish, I can't say I blame you for getting your revenge the way you did. In the aftermath of your W having an A I think it's perfectly acceptable to try and prove yourself to her and for you to want to feel good about yourself. It COULD be destructive but then again it could make her see what she was risking! Well I wasn't doing it for her..I was doing it for me. Tomcat just didn't like the idea of a cheating wife getting jealous over her betrayed husband starting to look and feel good.
bish Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Tough love. Sometimes you need to let others know there are consequences to thier actions. Personally, I would spend my time cleaning my guns and sharpening shovels, perhaps that might create a feeling of insecurity. But then I never claimed to be as nice as Bish! And I am nice. Sure I don't sound that way on this forum. But this is what happens when a nice guy gets walked all over constantly. They start fighting back.
silktricks Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 And I am nice. Sure I don't sound that way on this forum. But this is what happens when a nice guy gets walked all over constantly. They start fighting back. Nice women do that too!!
Tomcat33 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Poshprincess said: I think TC said that she only fantasised about revenge, but didn't put it into practice! BINGO!! Well I wasn't doing it for her..I was doing it for me. Tomcat just didn't like the idea of a cheating wife getting jealous over her betrayed husband starting to look and feel good. While I can see you think you know how I think considering you dont know me from a hole in the ground, I think it best to let ME be the one answering how I think. What I didn't like was the idea that you were arguing with your W about the gym and the attention you get from other women egging her insecurities on when you should have been trying do things to improve your marriage EVEN if she was the one who was at fault for cheating. The point was if you were choosing to forgive her by staying with her you needed to work at forgiving rather than creating more animosity. Especially after a year post D-day. But seeing that you are INCAPABLE of that, you are headed for D now anyway. Should have spared us all a stupid thread about your fights and just gotten D back when everyone kept telling you to, instead of posting the thread. You were headed down the slope at super highspeed anway...why prolongue the agony?
Tomcat33 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Tough love. Sometimes you need to let others know there are consequences to thier actions. Personally, I would spend my time cleaning my guns and sharpening shovels, perhaps that might create a feeling of insecurity. But then I never claimed to be as nice as Bish! If you want to show someone there are consequences to their actions I am more of the idea to simply cut them out, and get on with your life. Staying with them to torture them is not my idea of having someone pay their consequences, to me it sounds more like a selfish need for REVENGE. To torture someone for their mistakes and guise it as "forgiveness" is probably more or just as selfish than cheating itself.
RealityCheck Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 If you want to show someone there are consequences to their actions I am more of the idea to simply cut them out, and get on with your life. Staying with them to torture them is not my idea of having someone pay their consequences, to me it sounds more like a selfish need for REVENGE. To torture someone for their mistakes and guise it as "forgiveness" is probably more or just as selfish than cheating itself. Well said! I'm in the same mind space TC! Revenge, really serves no purpose. Certainly would not make a person love you more! It would solidify they are better off without you! The sweetest revenge is to not do anything at all!
bish Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 What I didn't like was the idea that you were arguing with your W about the gym Which shows you can't read or don't care about what was said. I didn't start the argument and didn't want any part of it. But oh...you saw a betrayed husband standing up for himself, and that just somehow threw you into a tailspin. and the attention you get from other women egging her insecurities on when you should have been trying do things to improve your marriage EVEN if she was the one who was at fault for cheating. Uh...I don't believe I said anything in that thread about getting attention from other women. You just pulled that one out of thin air. And she was the one that accused me of doing it for other women. that was HER problem...not mine. The point was if you were choosing to forgive her by staying with her you needed to work at forgiving rather than creating more animosity. And anyone can see if they go back and read that thread that I didn't cause the animosity. All I did was go to the gym and workout. it was HER that started the fight. Oh...I forgot...i was suppose to sit there and take it. Even if I were to walk away, she would have followed me and kept on. Sorry...I don't fold like a cheap suit.
PoshPrincess Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Revenge, really serves no purpose. Certainly would not make a person love you more! It would solidify they are better off without you! I'm inclined to agree here. As I said before, I can see why Bish would want to try to make his W jealous after what she had done, but even if it does rile her, all it's going to do is fuel the fire. It could possibly just end up in a game of tit-for-tat.
Hoping For the Best Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Yes, your revenge will be complete the day that he's not important enough to you to even consider it. Of course that does take awhile. So while it seems like you are letting him off easy, just keep that "Someday" in sight. Someday he will be sorry without you doing anything at all.
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