Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Ok, I am sitting here at the computer and looking thorugh the pics of available men on one of these dating websites. Let me first state yuck. Anyway, a funny thought crossed my mind. What if I took pic of my xmm and posted him on one of these sites and provided his e-mail information etc. I dont think I could actually do it but, it made me laugh. Has anyone else ever thought about revenge on XMM because they made you hurt so badly when it was done and over with?
GreenEyedLady Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Has anyone else ever thought about revenge on XMM because they made you hurt so badly when it was done and over with? I am a firm believer that living well is the best revenge... It is my personal belief that revenge is rather immature and high schoolish... And no one makes you feel a certain way...we are responsible for the choices we make and sometimes those choices reap rewards and sometimes they reap pain...
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 It is my personal belief that revenge is rather immature and high schoolish... You are right it is a bit high schoolish but, it made me giggle with just the thought of it.
raslers Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I agree. I have contemplated letting OOWs husband know about MMs affair with her. It would be easy to do. Just one small note on the seat of his boat and all hell would break loose. BUT.......................I am above that. What they are doing is their business now. I can only live well and they can live unhappy. I really wasnt' happy after the first year of the A. I always wondered and worried about when we'd meet. I called, but he didn't. I always initiated for the most part. I was a convenience. I now know that, but didn't realize it til the OOW woman came along. They deserve each other. Also, what goes around comes around (in one way or another).
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 W had found out, I am just pissed and hurt about the way he handled the situation and threw me to the trash. Especially trying to cover his a$$ with her each time she called to get more info. It was just a funny thought though. Even after all the emotional breakdowns I have had due to this A I still could not break the promise I once made to him. That I would never hurt him.
raslers Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 W had found out, I am just pissed and hurt about the way he handled the situation and threw me to the trash. Especially trying to cover his a$$ with her each time she called to get more info. It was just a funny thought though. Even after all the emotional breakdowns I have had due to this A I still could not break the promise I once made to him. That I would never hurt him. We won't hurt because we are human. We wouldn't want it done to us. In my case the only way I can hurt is to humiliate not only myself, but hurt the W too and i could never do that. Big hugs to you
lost4ever Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I think about revenge alot, just like you not in a serious way, just for fun, I would never really do it.....Today my stbxh and I did all the sorting of bills and such, getting ready for the divorce, I just have to laugh now that I know the affair cost me 25,5000/yr (not that the money matters, at all)!! and to think my MM is sitting on his boat right now with his wife, stupid me, the worst part of the whole night, I am getting my budget together for my "new" life, and my H says...hunny I love you, I always will, if you need me to help you with your bills, just ask.....why on earth I ever did this, I will never know...sorry I am getting way off topic, rough night
lonelybird Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 But shouldn't you take responsibility as well for entering a relationship with him when you KNOW he is married? Remorse is a further step to heal yourself. Next is "move on and do no more this kind stuff" But to defend own mistake and push all responsibility to others will not bring healing.
RealityCheck Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I am a firm believer that living well is the best revenge... It is my personal belief that revenge is rather immature and high schoolish... And no one makes you feel a certain way...we are responsible for the choices we make and sometimes those choices reap rewards and sometimes they reap pain... Well said GEL.....Living well is the sweetest of revenge!
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 But shouldn't you take responsibility as well for entering a relationship with him when you KNOW he is married? Remorse is a further step to heal yourself. Next is "move on and do no more this kind stuff" But to defend own mistake and push all responsibility to others will not bring healing. I have taken my part of the responsibility of this A. I have not done anything after the A ended to hurt him. I wouldnt do that, if anything I spoke with the W for as long as I could take it to try and make the A sound less than what it was for his sake and her. As I stated, it was just a funny thought that crossed my mind and was just wondering if any one else ever had these kind of thoughts. That was all.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Ok, I am sitting here at the computer and looking thorugh the pics of available men on one of these dating websites. Let me first state yuck. Anyway, a funny thought crossed my mind. What if I took pic of my xmm and posted him on one of these sites and provided his e-mail information etc. I dont think I could actually do it but, it made me laugh. Has anyone else ever thought about revenge on XMM because they made you hurt so badly when it was done and over with? As long as you make it a MAN seeking MAN ad, then its ok. Why you ask? Because revenge is best served funny!
lonelybird Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Indifference is best revenge forgiveness is best revenge pity him is best revenge
nellstar Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 As long as you make it a MAN seeking MAN ad, then its ok. Why you ask? Because revenge is best served funny! Oh Cobra.. you crack me up!!
nellstar Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I am a firm believer that living well is the best revenge... It is my personal belief that revenge is rather immature and high schoolish... And no one makes you feel a certain way...we are responsible for the choices we make and sometimes those choices reap rewards and sometimes they reap pain... True, true and true!!
Love4Eternity Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 i wouldnt do it but ya it would be funny...although he might get some serious replies that would suck...
OpenBook Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Indifference is best revenge I completely agree with this. Trust me, he's not worth the effort. But YOU ARE. Forgive him if it makes YOU feel better. But don't do anything for HIS sake. Of course, it's fun to think about revenge right now. (I especially like Cobra's idea, with the words "doesn't mind small equipment" thrown in there somewhere under What I'm Looking For .) Just make sure you don't ACT on it. Some things are better left to the imagination.
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I have taken my part of the responsibility of this A. I have not done anything after the A ended to hurt him. I wouldnt do that, if anything I spoke with the W for as long as I could take it to try and make the A sound less than what it was for his sake and her. As I stated, it was just a funny thought that crossed my mind and was just wondering if any one else ever had these kind of thoughts. That was all. You did her no favours in covering up for him. Once again, she's kept in the dark like a mushroom and fed more manure. This had nothing to do with being kind to her, it was all about him and a way to protect yourself from her anger, by minimalizing the affair.
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 You did her no favours in covering up for him. Once again, she's kept in the dark like a mushroom and fed more manure. This had nothing to do with being kind to her, it was all about him and a way to protect yourself from her anger, by minimalizing the affair. Not exactly, she knew enough about the A, but, I did not think to give explicit details was my place nor her buisiness. She knew how long, how often etc. When she askes how many times did you go to dinner, where did you go, what did you eat, did he tell you he loves you etc. that was taking it a bit far. Her anger towards me, well, trust me, when I say I took a huge blunt, not as much as him but for two months I was put through hell and embarassment. I took it for awhile because I did deserve some of it for the most part but then it started turning into stalking. So, this being said I did not protect myself from her, I could have had her arrested from some of the sh** she was doing but I didnt because I knew it would hurt him and her so I just deal with the e-mails, her showing up at work to gawk at me, the flowers that are sent to the office, the phone calls and the nasty names while still dealing with my own pain and issues that I have because I put myself into a mess like this. But lesson learned in life. The guy seeking guy is a much funnier thought. If only I could be so devious and actually act upon it.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 so I just deal with the e-mails, her showing up at work to gawk at me, the flowers that are sent to the office, the phone calls and the nasty names while still dealing with my own pain and issues that I have because I put myself into a mess like this. But lesson learned in life. The guy seeking guy is a much funnier thought. If only I could be so devious and actually act upon it. And what did you get out of all this? The wife probably doesnt want to believe that her husband is just morally bankrupt, so its easier to blame you for everything. Yeah she's going to dump on him for giving into "temptation", but your going to take the brunt of her anger. So, What do you get for protecting him? Its true that indifference is typically the best move in this type of situation, however, I also stongly believe in the law of communicative pain. As long as your reasonable certain that the add cant be traced back to you... I'd do it! Either that or smack him in the face with a shovel!
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 As long as your reasonable certain that the add cant be traced back to you... I'd do it! Either that or smack him in the face with a shovel! I would have to spend money on the shovel. He is not worth the wasted money. Interesting though.
IWALH Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Yeah, I've thought about stuff like that before. When I have my bitter moments. But I'd never seriously do anything like that either. Everyone is right, living well is the best revenge. I will get my ultimate revenge when I get my college degree (something neither he nor his w have) and get married to a great man half his age who will be the true, wonderful father to xMM's biological daughter that he will never know. Not only will all of that make me feel so happy and fulfilled, but it will also be a very sweet "revenge."
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 IWALH, Good to see you are back. I actually get revenge almost everyday of the week. He has to see me at work because I have refused to leave and then he has to go home to get grilled about if he saw/talked to me that day. I guess the best revenge is when you do nothing at all but the ad posting still makes me gigle.
IWALH Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 IWALH, Good to see you are back. I actually get revenge almost everyday of the week. He has to see me at work because I have refused to leave and then he has to go home to get grilled about if he saw/talked to me that day. I guess the best revenge is when you do nothing at all but the ad posting still makes me gigle. Haha, that is good revenge. I had to come back. I hated not having anywhere to go when thoughts of him creep into my head. Whenever I start to think about him I just jump on this website and remind myself why he needs to stay out of my head and heart forever. It works wonders. When I stop posting completely, that means he is out of my head for good!!! Let's hope that time comes sooner rather than later!!!
Author Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 Best revenge, when he walks by and I dont say anything to him anymore and Thurs as I was leaving he was walking to his car and got him starring at me as I drove by and I didnt even wave. By the way, I sent you a PM.
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