TonyGismo Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I've been dating a married woman who has been married to her husband of 13 years and never for love but for conveniences and status. She resent him and didn't had sex with him for 5 years. She isn't planning leaving him because of "the kids." This is one complication to all this. I'm in love with her. Question: Should I continue of dating her even though she isn't getting a divorce any time soon? Gismo
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I guess it depends on how you like the idea of a dead end relationship. What do you want out of this, and what are the chances of what you want happening? If the chances are in the zero range, then you will have to decide for yourself whether you want to tie up your life with someone whose life is tied to someone else.
kitty99b Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 it doesnt look good for you. you fell in love with a woman who obviously only want you for sex. I Say tell your heart to fall out of love with her and find someone better for you:)
Author TonyGismo Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 Kitty, We express love to each other but I know it's not genuine. I like the sex and what it brings. I will ride it as long as it last. If she get divorce, then i will find with me, vise versa. My wording of love is probably is lust. maybe.
whichwayisup Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Tony, re-post your situation in the OW/OM section. The help you need is there too... The chances of her NOT having sex with her husband are slim to none. The chances of her marriage being as bad as she says it is, is slim to none. These are all lines that married folks say, they either exaggerate or bend the truth to make them look good in eyes of the person whom they're having the affair with. Do you think she is going to tell you the truth? That she is still having sex with her H? No, she wouldn't because then it would only piss you off and maybe hurt your feelings. Bottomline, she has a child with her husband, a house, a history with him...She isn't going to give that up, which is why you'll be the OM in her life for as long as you let her. Right now she has TWO men meeting all her needs. Why would she want to give one guy up, when she can have two?? Think about it... Think of the day, when it comes...When you two get caught. Be prepared for that fallout and the consquences of choices.... Read up in the OW/OM section and also the infidelity section.
norajane Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Don't you want a real relationship with someone who truly cares about you? It's a lot less likely that you'd ever give anyone a chance to develop a relationship with you while you're involved with this married woman - nor are you even likely to notice if someone is noticing you. Staying with her just prolongs your being alone.
CantCutitOff Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Gismo, I've been there, done that... and trust me, even if you don't go into it with the expectation that the person will leave, you're setting yourself up for a world of hurt! I would steer clear... there are plenty of lovely single women out there!
Author TonyGismo Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 I'm not expecting for her to leave her husband because she isn't planning. She has many things at risk.
Yamaha Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Right now she has TWO men meeting all her needs. Why would she want to give one guy up, when she can have two?? Think about it... She is getting what she wants out of it but can you say the same thing? She is not here posting about her new lover and bashing her H but you are wondering if she likes you for more than sex? I would say that you both are getting what you want but relationships change over time and will you still be getting it if your feelings become more jealous?
JamesM Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Tony, do a search for "ratingsguy." You will read of his situation. Although he wanted her to leave and he expected her to leave, when she did....she no longer wanted him. As long as you enjoy the FWBs relationship that you have, okay. But remember, one day you may be the husband to a woman who cheats on you. I am not judging you, but the relationship that you have is one that will only be enjoyed today. Tomorrow is the future, and you will be history.
Woggle Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 So this woman is using her husband and lying to him while he thinks she is a loving wife and you are attracted to this? This is the type of woman that catches your fancy? I won't feel any sympathy when you end up with pain and heartbreak.
amber1 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 If I were you I would get out of this as soon as possible, especially if you have real feelings for her. I have been in this situation before. I met the guy while he and his wife were seperated and then he got back with her. Then he never left her. It's best if you get out now.
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