jendevil17 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Hi I am 24 years old I have been with my husband for over 6 years and married for 2 of those years. He is a wonderful guy, and until about a month ago I thought things were fine. For about a week when he came home from work all he would do is sleep, I just figured he was tired because he gets up really early, but i would try to talk to him and he would just kind of blow me off. So i finally asked what was wrong and he said nothing then later told me hes unhappy and doesnt know why. And for the next week all he would do was go to work, then sit by the lake, and then come home at night. I would talk to him and he told me his head is screwed up, hes tired all the time, he hardly eats anymore, he cant think straight, he cant sleep anymore, and he just wants to be alone, he doesnt want to be around anyone he just wants to sit by himself. I asked him if hes having an affair he says hes not, and i truly believe him. I told him I think he has depression and he told me he thinks he also has bad anxiety. I finally convinced him to go to the dr. he was prescribed meds and told me he would try them, he took 1 pill and refuses to take anything now. i dont know what to do anymore. Hes had depression before i met him and he was on prozac and did not like it. I think thats why he wont take it now. He says he will get over it, but this is too hard. He says he wants to be with me and be happy, the way things were. But now he talks about divorce and i ask why and he says the way hes treating me isnt right. He says he doesnt know what to do, all he does know is he wants to sit in the car or by the lake and not be around anyone. I really dont know what to do. I feel like i've done all I can. I dont think he really wants a divorce, but he wont do anything to help himself. He tells me he just doesnt care about anything anymore. This is really hard because this is not the man I have been with for the past 6 years. I told him maybe he should leave for a couple days and try to figure out what he really wants, and he said he will also consider trying medication. He tells me he loves me, cares about me, he slept in the car a few nights and i asked if he misses me and he says yes. I just dont know what to do. I guess I just wanted some advice or something, I just feel so lost. Jennifer
NSBR Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 You are a wonderful, patient person to be so caring for your husband. That type of behavior doesn't seem normal and could be a result of a chemical imbalance. You should really have him see a doctor and probably two for a second opinion. You could easily have your old husband back and be his old self. Above all, however, make sure you take care of yourself and your health. It can be big strain to carry the burden of a spouse in need and yourself.
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