allina Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Do most people in serious relationships and married people devolop little crushes on other people here and there? Do you?
Author allina Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 I have a man-crush on Bear Grylls. That's the guy from Man vs Wild yes? If so, I completely understand.
KittenMoon Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 WHen I was in an LTR, I always had a little crush... or two... or three. My ex knew about some of them- because they were generally silly and/or unrealistic and he knew I'd never cheat. Others were fantasy material I kept to myself. I think it's fine to have crushes as long as there is no intention to act. Denial of the thing gives it more power, IMHO.
tanbark813 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 That's the guy from Man vs Wild yes? If so, I completely understand. W0rd. Bear is h4rdc0r3.
Author allina Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 W0rd. Bear is h4rdc0r3. Yes, he's quite the impressive man beast.
Lostgurl Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Yes, he's quite the impressive man beast. I just googled him.... I'd let him maul me ANYDAY
Author allina Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 I just googled him.... I'd let him maul me ANYDAY Just wait till you see him eat worms.
Lostgurl Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Just wait till you see him eat worms. eeewww... Maybe i should take that comment back, until i actually check out his character. That's not sexy . He sure looks good though.
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Attraction is normal. It's what you do with it that matters and defines you as a person. This includes emotional affairs.
Author allina Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 eeewww... Maybe i should take that comment back, until i actually check out his character. That's not sexy . He sure looks good though. But that's what his show is based on! Attraction is normal. It's what you do with it that matters and defines you as a person. This includes emotional affairs. Emotional affairs are a weird thing. I think they're worse than just a physical one but how can a person control their feelings?
tanbark813 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 But that's what his show is based on! He also kills bunnies with sticks, drinks his pee, and jumps into arctic water in his Union Jack boxer briefs. If that's not a man I don't know what is.
Author allina Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 He also kills bunnies with sticks, drinks his pee Oh no! That I haven't seen.
LoveLace Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I would think it'd almost be impossible not to...when I think of "crush" I think of someone that I find attractive and enjoy being around, nothing beyond, ya might even just think they are really cute. Since this criteria is such a broad amount of people...I would think it could happen quite often and I don't think anything's wrong with it as long as you don't have other intentions or somehow let if effect your current R.
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Emotional affairs are a weird thing. I think they're worse than just a physical one but how can a person control their feelings? If you find yourself in an emotional affair situation, the best way to counter that is with distance and time. Cease all contact so it doesn't keep growing. Eventually, the interest will die. In the future, you should have a better handle on how to nip it in the bud before it starts. One way of ensuring this is not to get too friendly with someone who is your "type".
Author allina Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 I would think it'd almost be impossible not to...when I think of "crush" I think of someone that I find attractive and enjoy being around, nothing beyond, ya might even just think they are really cute. I'm so weird I never have crushes on people that are based on looks, it's always personality. It's always the way a man speaks, his whit or something like that.
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Oh, lest we forget, be careful of emotional predators. There's enough of them out there.
johan Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Bear Grylls is remarkably versatile... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=470155&in_page_id=1770 Crushes are hard not to have. It's important not to allow them to run your life. The ability to apply proper personal cost-benefit analysis is a sign of maturity.
LoveLace Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I'm so weird I never have crushes on people that are based on looks, it's always personality. It's always the way a man speaks, his whit or something like that. I've always thought of "crush" as not very serious, but I think the meaning of the word can vary from person to person.
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 You're dead to me now, johan. :lmao: This board swings AC/DC a lot.
Author allina Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 Bear Grylls is remarkably versatile... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=470155&in_page_id=1770 I hate you for this and I refuse to believe it. I think you may have also killed Tan's man crush.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Do most people in serious relationships and married people devolop little crushes on other people here and there? Do you? That's quite common. We come across so many individuals in our everyday lives, it's very likely that we'll find a couple of them attractive / interesting. How much you want to indulge yourself in this liking, depends on you. Some people are able to recognize these feelings as being a temporary, and even silly, diversion. They know their limits, especially if they are in a committed relationship. They wouldn't even give much thought to their "crush" beyond the few minutes that they see or talk to them. Other people might be completely taken in by their crush, and develop a fantasy around them. And perhaps try to live out the fantasy. In my opinion, it has a lot to do with a person's sense of reality and respect for the current relationship. If you don't have that, you'll be more likely to take a simple crush more seriously that you should.
johan Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I hate you for this and I refuse to believe it. I think you may have also killed Tan's man crush. ha ha ha. I saw that.. ha ha ha.. Hey, the fact is all crushes are based to some extent on fantasy. And for the record, that whole building-a-raft-all-by-yourself-in-one-afternoon-with-only-a-knife thing seemed a bit far-fetched to me. That's at least a two day project. On the other hand, there is no doubt that he ate a live snake, and puked a lot after eating those roots. So it seems he picks and chooses which parts he does for real. He actually seems to pick the weird parts. It seems camping out is more a problem for him than spending the day with a piss-soaked shirt wrapped around his head.
underpants Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 That's quite common. We come across so many individuals in our everyday lives, it's very likely that we'll find a couple of them attractive / interesting. How much you want to indulge yourself in this liking, depends on you. Some people are able to recognize these feelings as being a temporary, and even silly, diversion. They know their limits, especially if they are in a committed relationship. They wouldn't even give much thought to their "crush" beyond the few minutes that they see or talk to them. Other people might be completely taken in by their crush, and develop a fantasy around them. And perhaps try to live out the fantasy. In my opinion, it has a lot to do with a person's sense of reality and respect for the current relationship. If you don't have that, you'll be more likely to take a simple crush more seriously that you should. I agree with alot of this. I have crushes all the time. I even have entire fantasy relationships with ...you know Johnny and Henry. That Bear guy though...he is just a nut job. He has crazy eyes.....like my ex. I will just add that in addition to TTSP's last paragraph. Those momentary elations also may be tempered by what type of person you care to be to yourself, i.e. how much you respect yourself. As in cases of crushes whist in a relationship or crushes on others in relationships.
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