alpha70 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Caught my gf in a lie and confronted her. We were going to try and work things out but she was on the fence. I was going to try and be the patient boyfriend. She has a past boyfriend, who has been her friend now for a couple of years since they last dated. Well, since our rough patch he's been there for her doing all sorts of repairs and hauling and fixing things at her house for her. She told me the other day that she doesn't look at him like a boyfriend, but then told me that he's given her backrubs, runs his fingers through her hair, etc... What kind of GFriend tells someone that? what kind of friends do that? Granted she doesn't have any girlfriends for this, but get real, right? Anyway, I confronted her about a lie that I thought she was telling me....basically telling me that her car was somewhere else when I actually saw where it really was...meaning he was with her on a specific night. I wanted to end this crap and I knew she would deny it. She did and then totally went off on me for not trusting her. Came over and gave me my house keys and now we dislike each other. Was I in the wrong? I'm thinking I did the right thing and ended the disrespect she was showing me. Yes? or No?
DumpED Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Sorry to hear about that man. I don't think that she was being honest with you. And the fact that she was letting him be that affectionate with her is very disrespectful to you even if it was in a "friendly" manner. Any sort of intimate touching by anyone else would surely be considered inappropriate. I don't think that she knows what she wants, and the fact that she blew up at you only seals the deal as far as her dishonesty. If it was all innocent than she would have just talked with you about it, her being on the defensive is just a sign that you've hit a nerve....again I'm sorry to hear about it bro.....
Author alpha70 Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 Chime in Chinook? It's finally over and ended rather bad. Tells me not to contact her daughter anymore, etc... How come I'm the bad guy when she was being disrespectful? What the hell! I'm sure I'll be glad to be rid of her drama in the long run, but it's confusing. What a wacko!
funkybassplayer Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Chime in Chinook? It's finally over and ended rather bad. Tells me not to contact her daughter anymore, etc... How come I'm the bad guy when she was being disrespectful? What the hell! I'm sure I'll be glad to be rid of her drama in the long run, but it's confusing. What a wacko! Your not the bad guy, your making yourself think you are. Let her do as she pleases, cos its over, and all that does not matter any more. What does is you! so dont let her issues drag you down. my ex would make me feel crap all the time. She would go out and tell me that this guys squeezed her arse or this guy said she was 27. Wtf do i need to hear that crap for........! some people have a way of making us feel guilty. Remember shes projecting her own crap on you. Her issues are projected on you. As for the daugther, my ex eldest has me on her msn, and i dont contact her, if she wants to contact me then fine. I guess depending on how old she is, she may want to keep in touch off her own back, as my ex's did. As for the ex's friend. It sounds that he was not being respectful to you, and she went along with it too. Ok a friend is fine, but he has no right to touch your woman, but then again she let him! I think you are better off out of it.
Author alpha70 Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 Can I get some love people? Thanks for reading but how bout some advice for a brotha?
tanbark813 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Forget about her. If I read your post right she was lying about being with an ex. People don't lie about that sort of thing for no reason. She's getting all defensive about things because she's trying to cover up what she did. You weren't in the wrong. If you want to be with a dishonest chick who cheats on you, get back with her. If not, move on.
Author alpha70 Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 It's just weird cause I'm about 80% positive that she lied to me, but I can't prove it. Saying that, why do I feel like I've doing something wrong by accusing her of this lie? She's much stronger willed than I am about sending txt messages....I do and she doesn't reply. I just told her that she needs to come pick up her things that I placed on my deck outside asap, and that I was sorry that things have gotten so crappy, but when she lied to me it hurt like hell.....no response from her. I know I just need to let it go, but do some people have no remorse or guilt within them? Not sure how she stomaches all that and is fine with it. Part of me is hoping she's stewing inside. Anyway, just venting.
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