relearning2breath Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Its been a little over 2 months. I've been slowly getting over him and accepting the fact that he is happy with someone else and that I am just an afterthought. Its shocking that a man you loved with all your heart can move on and fall in love again so quickly. How can someone be with a person for 2 1/2 years tell them that their going to marry them and when we break up... a month afterwards be "in love" with someone else and act like all we had was a casual fling?! It's still mind boggling. I always had my reservations about how he felt about me. Yes he said he loved me. But physically he never showed me. So I doubted us and became insecure about myself. I kept telling myself, if you just do this it'll get better. And it wouldnt work. He used to message me a lot and txt me all the time. Thats died off the past 2 weeks. I guess he's tired of me not intiating any contact. I just dont know what to say to him. Does he want my blessing? I dont know. He call's me his best friend. But what kind of best friend shows no concern for that person. I guess he was lucky and has some magical love switch that he turned off when we broke up. Sometimes he'll message me and ask how im doing and if im dating anyone. I am moving on. Oh so slowly but some days like today. I sit here in my little cubicle, and know hes on aim just like me. And how easy it would be just to say hi. Or click on his myspace which i DEFINITLEY dont do. I dont need to see pictures of him and his new gf and their sweet little messages to eachother. I dont need to depress myself any further. But god, I just miss seeing his face sometimes, his voice, his smell. And he just erased me from his mind and heart. On the good side since the break i've fell in love with going to the gym. i go almost daily and have lost about 25lbs. Ive never looked better and atleast to the outside world i seem to be the happiest i've ever been. Im trying to live by the motto "fake it until you feel it" I've gone on a couple casual dates. But I kno Im not ready for a relationship. It just sucks that he is. I just dont understand how he can go from planning our future together to acting like he never knew me. Lame messages about how great he's doing with his new gf or randomly flirting with me. the whole situation is just...yuck. Thanks for letting me vent. It feels better to rant on here then break down and msg him.
funkybassplayer Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Its been a little over 2 months. I've been slowly getting over him and accepting the fact that he is happy with someone else and that I am just an afterthought. Its shocking that a man you loved with all your heart can move on and fall in love again so quickly. How can someone be with a person for 2 1/2 years tell them that their going to marry them and when we break up... a month afterwards be "in love" with someone else and act like all we had was a casual fling?! It's still mind boggling. I always had my reservations about how he felt about me. Yes he said he loved me. But physically he never showed me. So I doubted us and became insecure about myself. I kept telling myself, if you just do this it'll get better. And it wouldnt work. He used to message me a lot and txt me all the time. Thats died off the past 2 weeks. I guess he's tired of me not intiating any contact. I just dont know what to say to him. Does he want my blessing? I dont know. He call's me his best friend. But what kind of best friend shows no concern for that person. I guess he was lucky and has some magical love switch that he turned off when we broke up. Sometimes he'll message me and ask how im doing and if im dating anyone. I am moving on. Oh so slowly but some days like today. I sit here in my little cubicle, and know hes on aim just like me. And how easy it would be just to say hi. Or click on his myspace which i DEFINITLEY dont do. I dont need to see pictures of him and his new gf and their sweet little messages to eachother. I dont need to depress myself any further. But god, I just miss seeing his face sometimes, his voice, his smell. And he just erased me from his mind and heart. On the good side since the break i've fell in love with going to the gym. i go almost daily and have lost about 25lbs. Ive never looked better and atleast to the outside world i seem to be the happiest i've ever been. Im trying to live by the motto "fake it until you feel it" I've gone on a couple casual dates. But I kno Im not ready for a relationship. It just sucks that he is. I just dont understand how he can go from planning our future together to acting like he never knew me. Lame messages about how great he's doing with his new gf or randomly flirting with me. the whole situation is just...yuck. Thanks for letting me vent. It feels better to rant on here then break down and msg him. Try not to think about how he can move on so quick, my ex did the same, and i did give her my blessing! i mean what the hell else can you do?? I was so tired of the whole thing anyway, but would not have given up. Some people find it better to get the honeymoon feeling again, rather than face a difficult patch that all relationship go through to develope. Anyway, you just look after you now, and when you are alone, dont fake it, feel the emotions, as they are coming out of you, rather than staying in a pit only to awaken again at a later point. You sound like your doing a grand job, and just for the record, so many of us on here have had an ex move on from us within a matter of days. Thats thier way, you do yours.
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