Mimsicles Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I love my boyfriend so much but there is just one problem, if he does the slightest thing to annoy me then i ignore him and i'm really horrible to him. I am normally i really happy person and nothing like this has ever happpened before. The other day he was talking to me and i just totally ignored him, the he got annoyed with me, i apologised for my behaviour and he said everything was ok, but as soon as i was alone i burst out crying because i'd upset him. I love him and dont want to lose him, please does anyone have any idea what is wrong with me????!
whichwayisup Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 What is your purpose to ignore him and treat him badly? What do YOU get out of doing that to him? How does it make you feel when you know you're ignoring (in that particular moment) him, or while being horrible to him. I hate to say it, but that is abuse. You don't think, you just do - Then later, you feel bad/sad/ashamed...And say sorry. You dont have to answer what I asked you, out on the boards, just something for you to think about. You can't control someone else, let alone control their habits. Sure, habits can be annoying as heck, but you need to learn to tolerate him and things that bug you about him.
Yamaha Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 This is not normal behavior if you truly love him. Do you think deep down your not good enough for him and you want to push him away?
Jesika Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Are you used to men treating you like this? Now that you have a good guy you don't know how to accept it, and have become the abuser? I had my own battle with that with the guy I am with now.......I was so used to being treated like ****.......when he didn't treat me that way I did things to push him away.......or in a way test him to see if he would leave like so many others before him. If you really love him.....sit down and talk about it........I tell my bf to tell me when I am overreacting or being short with him....cause I can't catch it all the time, but when he tells me- I take a step back and rethink my actions so I don't hurt him. Just my 2 cents.
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