AngryHeartache Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Hey. So, I met a guy about 2 months ago. We've become friends, and we see each other at least like 3 nights a week. Usually more. This is in our local put, where we also meet up with a few of our other friends. I really like him a lot, and I think he may be starting to get interested in me. I noticed that since I've liked him, he's been showing more interest in me. Maybe he has all along and I just didn't really notice 'cause I didn't see him in that way at the start?? I hate not knowing for sure if he likes me or not. I mean...the most obvious way is to ASK HIM, but I am NOT gonna be doing that anytime soon. I have done that too many times in the past, said to soon that I like a person, and it usually scared them off! I think I make it very obvious, but I;ve never actually said. I'm scared of being rejected (who isn't really??) Maybe he does like me too and is also scared. Bascialy, we get on so well. We're pretty much on the same wave-length, you know. We have the same sense of humour, and when I joined "his group" we hit it off straight away. Like I said, it was totally innnocent for me at first. But then I started liking him more and more, and now here I am, lol. When we're in the group it's usually us that pays most attention to each other than the others. When we talk and somebody else is talking, we usually just make it obvious we wanna talk to each other not really to them, haha. When we talk there's long eye contact. He seems to be more happier than I rememberd him before. He makes a lot of little jokes, like sexual things, that makes me think he must be at least a little attracted to my looks?? Also, another thing that stands out is...he often buys me drinks in the pubs, and food in the Kebab place up the road. I remember him telling me that he never really buys tings for other people...before he started doing it for me. These are apparently good signs a guy likes you But I dunno. Little things then make me think he maybe doesn't. Like a few nights he's asked my other guy friend to walk me home because he was tired...but he was going the same time as us, so it doesn't really make sense And also tonight, we were in a different pub and he had finished his drink and said to me and my other friend he's going back to the other one to meet this other guy in there, and he said we could stay in that pub and was like, "you;'d probably enjoy it in there more anyway" I was like "don't you want me to come??" lol..I thought maybe he didn't, and maybe he was sick of me. Tonight he did walk me home, and we were talking about something and he said how people are scared of him 'cause he's ufgly (in a half joking way) and I told him I think he's good looking. He said thanks, and I'm the first woman to say it. But he never said I was good looking too!! :( Am I being petty? Or am I stupid and he just wanna be firends? I feel like there is mixed signals. Sometimeds I think he does, other times not. What do you lot think?? Any idea?? What should I do? I guess that being with him alone, in a diffderent place would be a good idea. And that's already happening soon...he challenged me to a game on his Nintendo. Which I'm assuming would involve me at his house! Should I make a move? Or carry on flirting and let him do more? He is always stressing that he takes ages to trust people, soo.. ans one more thing! There is a bit of an age gap. I'm 18, he's 27, lol. Could that be a problem for him? Wish I could just ask, but I'm too damn scared! Thanks for reading this...and pleaaase reply! I'll love you all forever, haha. x
Capricciosa Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Sounds like he likes you to me, but that is a pretty significant age gap, so perhaps he is wary of letting it go any further than group outings, some flirtation, etc. I guess the Nintendo match will show you were he's at. And I think it's sweet that he asked someone to walk you home if for whatever reason he didn't feel up to it. Again, sounds like he's not sure what he wants from you or whether he should go for it, even if he does like you.
Author AngryHeartache Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 Sounds like he likes you to me, but that is a pretty significant age gap, so perhaps he is wary of letting it go any further than group outings, some flirtation, etc. I guess the Nintendo match will show you were he's at. And I think it's sweet that he asked someone to walk you home if for whatever reason he didn't feel up to it. Again, sounds like he's not sure what he wants from you or whether he should go for it, even if he does like you. Yeah, I think you may be right. He also seems to be a very independant guy, and has told me that he's trying to turn his life around for the better. So I guess he has a lot going on in his mind where he wants to be at, and just enjoy spending time on his own. He also has trust issuses and makes this clear. I told him last night the I like him more than a friend, and he seems really thrilled to be honest. We were talking on a bench from like 1 until 4, alone we were getting on soo well, it was beautiful...but he didn't actually say he liked me liked me And that was a huge opputunity. BUT, his body language and the way he treats me says he do, so I am confused. He also said that he thinks I'm feelings these things because I broke-up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago, and not quite over him (I knew I should have never said that in his prsense! Grr!) And he told me some things he apparently hasn't told many people, and he's been through quite a lot concerning girls. So I guess he's maybe just as confused as I am. The only thing I can do is be his friend and take it slow, I guess. Anyways, thanks a lot for your reply, Capricciosa Appreciate it.
jcster Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I think he really does like you, but due to the age difference, he's trying to make sure that he doesn't take advantage of you. This guy sounds great. You will need to make it clear to him that you are truly into him - give it some time - I think he might be a winner.
Author AngryHeartache Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 I think you may be right. I think he's a sweetheart! I will be easy on the guy and take it slow, lol. And make sure he knows my feelings are for real - not rebound or anything. Thank you for the advice!!
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