jjohns Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 Me and my ex have been very good friends now for awhile. We broke up almost a year ago and things were very rocky at first. It took along time for us to really be able to be friends. I thought that was what we were. We have had sex a few times when we are both without anyone. This is where the problem begins. The last time we were together she asked me if I still loved her. I didn't understand it and just pretended I was sleeping so I didn't have to answer. When I woke up in the morning I asked her about it and she said we should just forget about it so I did. I started dating someone after that and she was being extremely nice to me, but asking me questions that I didn't think she would ask. Why she would want to know if she was a good kisser really confused me. That girl moved so I am not dating anyone. She is now dating someone, and she was telling me about him. I just sat and listened and really didn't know what to say. She was trying to make me jealous, but I just don't get jealous about it anymore. Why would she want to do this to me? I thought the freindship was going great. We were talking daily and hanging out atleast once a week. Then because I wouldn't get jealous she started a huge argument and just kept screaming about how I will never change. I am hoping for someone to clarify what went on. I just don't understand what happened. Thanks for any help.
sao2 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 When she starts yelling at you, or when she asks if you love her you should ask her "what is it you want to hear from me?" It is such a disarming question. People usually don't know how to respond to this. Tell her that if she wants to be together again then she should either say so(if she dumped you) or just go into no contact(if you dumped her).
Cobra_X30 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Well, she still has feelings for you, its really that simple. She is looking for some reciprocation.
Ssheena Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Why did you two break up? I think for the most part, women can't have sex without feelings and men for the most part can. Talking everyday and having sex everynow and then is "a relationship" to some. Perhaps she was trying to fool herself into believing that she doesn't really care about you and she's ok with things the way they are but obviously, she is not ok with how they are. What do you want? What does she want? Do either of you know? Do you want the same thing? It seems obvious to me that she is still very much into you.
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