Meaplus3 Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 When you see other marrried men on the street do you ever look at them and wonder if they would be the type to have another woman? I took notice of all sort's of men while on vacation. Saw many leaving the city talikng on their cell phone's during rush hour,other's older that looked like they had been married forever, and then those with young children. In the back of my mind I could not help but wonder is this a man who could have and OW on the side? I have know idea why I was thinking this and wondered if any other former OW or current OW had this thought pop into their head? Any thought's? AP:)
child_of_isis Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 Any time I see a man with his cell phone in his ear, I always assume he is talking to an OW....lol.... I am _so_ jaded! :laugh::laugh:
RealityCheck Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 When you see other marrried men on the street do you ever look at them and wonder if they would be the type to have another woman? I took notice of all sort's of men while on vacation. Saw many leaving the city talikng on their cell phone's during rush hour,other's older that looked like they had been married forever, and then those with young children. In the back of my mind I could not help but wonder is this a man who could have and OW on the side? I have know idea why I was thinking this and wondered if any other former OW or current OW had this thought pop into their head? Any thought's? AP:) Of course! Having the experience of or as an OW there is a familiarity of thought. Your not alone hunny!
Hurt & Alone Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 Can't say when I am on the street and wonder this, usually too busy doing whatever I am doing to think much about it. But, while in meetings I look around but, I do not wonder because I know.
OpenBook Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 When you see other marrried men on the street do you ever look at them and wonder if they would be the type to have another woman? I try NOT to think about it... But I sure do check out that left hand - IMMEDIATELY - whenever a guy approaches me. (Even if he's not wearing a ring, there's usually a telltale white ring in the skintone... but my girlfriends can detect it better than I can, for some reason - so I always ask them if they noticed anything off.) It's a hell of a way to live. But you can't be too careful!!
Author Meaplus3 Posted August 9, 2007 Author Posted August 9, 2007 Any time I see a man with his cell phone in his ear, I always assume he is talking to an OW....lol.... I am _so_ jaded! :laugh::laugh: Ha! Could be you never know? AP:lmao:
KATANYA Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 I think about that when we are at meetings/conferences. Sometimes its obvious by the way they act with other women, especially ones that are with them at the meeting. IMO most cheaters have the same routines/actions that kind of give them away-not stereotyping all MM but many have similar routines/lines that give you the signals they are not the faithful type.
GreenEyedLady Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 When you see other marrried men on the street do you ever look at them and wonder if they would be the type to have another woman? I took notice of all sort's of men while on vacation. Saw many leaving the city talikng on their cell phone's during rush hour,other's older that looked like they had been married forever, and then those with young children. In the back of my mind I could not help but wonder is this a man who could have and OW on the side? I have know idea why I was thinking this and wondered if any other former OW or current OW had this thought pop into their head? Any thought's? AP:) I can't say that I've ever thought that in particular... Although there are times when I see men in certain lines of work or who are very attractive, and I pretty much assume they are having an A with someone...
sadbuttrue Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 i do think about this at times. being in the medical profession, it is a given for many of the physicians. i do also check out their left hand for rings openbook.
RealityCheck Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 I can't say that I've ever thought that in particular... Although there are times when I see men in certain lines of work or who are very attractive, and I pretty much assume they are having an A with someone... LMAOOOOOOO....... now that's funny!
CantCutitOff Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 I think about that when we are at meetings/conferences. Sometimes its obvious by the way they act with other women, especially ones that are with them at the meeting. IMO most cheaters have the same routines/actions that kind of give them away-not stereotyping all MM but many have similar routines/lines that give you the signals they are not the faithful type. Absolutely agree with this. Especially in my line of work, conferences seemt to be a MAJOR (and acceptable) place to cheat your heart out. I wonder sometimes whether that's the only reason why people go! Although I'm no longer an OW, I certainly still have no shame in checking out a MM.. but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. SOoo.. the fact that "hey this cutie might have an OW" is definitely NOT the first thing that pops into mind.
BurriedAlive Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 OMG, I so do think that!!!! Infact, I sometimes look at them with a knowing smile.... But I will say that I pity the next MM that comes my way and tries to make me his next OW - this chick is not falling for that one again!!!
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Most of the time I just look at them ALL and think "Bloody Men!Cant live with them, cant put their head in with a shovel." LOL I do find that MM that know I am an OW think I am "fair game" and flirt more than they should which really annoys me - so they're probably turning the tables on that one and thinking "Wonder if she would if I came on to her". But I dont often look at men to be honest since I'm tragic enough only to have eyes for my MM. GAWD...
Cinabon Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I have never thought about that before. I might have checked out a good looking guy . But never thought about who he was talking to on his cell.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 i do think about this at times. being in the medical profession, it is a given for many of the physicians. i do also check out their left hand for rings openbook. I know so many docs that are complete pervs. Plus it is such a romanticized career. AP, Ive had this kind of thing... not in the same way as you, but very similar. So I am thinking that its a natural self defence mechanism, that just kind of goes haywire.
Tsuki no Michi Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I presume being an OM qualifies for purposes of this discussion? If so, then in answer to the question my answer is no. I don't think I have ever thought of anyone, man or woman, who I see as a couple as doing so. I'm sure it's naivette on my part seeing as depending on what statistics you believe between 20-80% of all married couples cheat at one time or another. But at least in my case I haven't ever thought that way about people, at least not to my knowledge anyway. TNM
Frances Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I do find that MM that know I am an OW think I am "fair game" and flirt more than they should which really annoys me - so they're probably turning the tables on that one and thinking "Wonder if she would if I came on to her". But I dont often look at men to be honest since I'm tragic enough only to have eyes for my MM. GAWD... But does MM have only eyes for you.
mineymoe Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I was never an OW before and didn't really think of myself as such until now but I find myself wondering that sometimes when i see couples, or even men i know casually sometimes i wonder how easy it would be to get them to stray. I also find myself looking at some married women who have completely let themselves go and wonder what are they thinking? My guys lady (gag) is completely hideous on the outside and the inside...but she has a lot of money...so ya know my guy ain't all that great either....
Hurt & Alone Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Not to get of the topic, but, I can say now when I see someone out that I think looks good i immediately look at thier finger. Although, this does not mean much any more, my XMM does not wear a ring nor does so many other married men that I know.
IWALH Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Haha, oh man, I know what you mean. A lot of the time when I see a guy in public I automatically look at his left ring finger. If there is a ring there I wonder that same thing. ANY guy that approaches me at ALL, I IMMEDIATELY look at their ring finger. It's just become an automatic response now. Doesn't matter if they are young or old, cute or not. And when someone WITH a ring on his finger tries to FLIRT with me I get the most disgusting feeling in my stomach and look on my face. I would LOVE to see a married guy attempt to try ANYTHING with me in the future. He sure has another thing coming!! It's amazing how much I have learned and grown by seeing a married man on and off for 2 1/2 years. Unfortunately, it has jaded me quite a bit when it comes to men. I'll heal, though. I hope it's not that long before I do. I can't wait for a real, honest, committed relationship with someone who is SANE (and single!).
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