Lizzie60 Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 When you text message your MM... do you text message 'dirty talk' or it is just about serious stuff.... I love to play with my MM... like just now... I love to drive him crazy... he is having dinner right now... LOL this is fun... Do you have fun like that with your MM?
RealityCheck Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 When you text message your MM... do you text message 'dirty talk' or it is just about serious stuff.... I love to play with my MM... like just now... I love to drive him crazy... he is having dinner right now... LOL this is fun... Do you have fun like that with your MM? I'm going to shoot from the hip here.....perhaps not for all that get emotionally twisted in the Affair....but for others a MM is a toy, with all the bells and whistles for someone who does not want a commitment.
Hurt & Alone Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 My XMM and I would do more than text naughty thoughts, we would have text/pic/video sex as well
GreenEyedLady Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 When you text message your MM... do you text message 'dirty talk' or it is just about serious stuff....Do you have fun like that with your MM? We do both...Isn't that part of a well-rounded R? We have lots of FUN...
Yamaha Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 When you text message your MM... do you text message 'dirty talk' or it is just about serious stuff.... I love to play with my MM... like just now... I love to drive him crazy... he is having dinner right now... LOL this is fun... Do you have fun like that with your MM? Wouldn't this be the point??? (talking dirty)
sadbuttrue Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 we do both as well. although we typically use email a lot more. he doesnt use his phone much, he actually just got one recently (his W bought it for him ). it is a lot of fun though
outofdarkness Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 In all seriousness, is dirty talk, texts, etc, really part of the A? I'm asking b/c my H claims to have had JUST a phone, interned, text A w/ one of is OW's...Is this normally a part of A's...I have tried it w/ my H at various times, but just don't seem "good at it" unless I've had a few drinks, and I try really hard to do that anymore..Any ideas???
Tomcat33 Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 In all seriousness, is dirty talk, texts, etc, really part of the A? I'm asking b/c my H claims to have had JUST a phone, interned, text A w/ one of is OW's...Is this normally a part of A's...I have tried it w/ my H at various times, but just don't seem "good at it" unless I've had a few drinks, and I try really hard to do that anymore..Any ideas??? Hi OOD hope you are doing well. I'm not sure if it's part of As or not but sexy texts and emails have always been part of my rels. (significant ones not just guys I date) the key to them is that you have to do what feels natural, if you give it too much thought it won't be sexy .So yeah if you are having a glass of wine and you let your sexy imagination run wild you send him a quick text to let him know your naughty thoughts, maybe a little fantasy that kind of thing. I find really fun sending spontaneous sexy date invites via text, you know tell him to meet you somewhere and to look for you and you surprise him as you wish if you get my drift Again the key to it is to do what feels natural to you even within something somewhat unnatural, and have fun with it...you get good at it the more comfortable you become. Gees I hope that was your question otherwise I will feel like a real knob for typing all that out
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 I like writing dirty note on the back of the bulletin in church. It makes for great Sunday afternoon sex!
nellstar Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 MM and I text from serious to silly to sexy texts!!! I think that is one of the fun things in a r/ship! He is the only one that I have really gotten used to texting sexy messages. I didn't have the flow before.. he brought it out of me!!! Just like Tomcat33 said - it's part of a r/ship... not just As. OOD, I'm sure you will be able to do it! Just like what Tomcat33 said - with some wine and sexy imagination - you're on your way!! Good luck!
outofdarkness Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 I like writing dirty note on the back of the bulletin in church. It makes for great Sunday afternoon sex! LOL...will have to try that one...Knowing my luck, it would fall and the elderly gentlemen that always sits in front of us, who's a good friend of our family's..would most likely pick it up!!! Then I'd REALLY be in trouble!!!
outofdarkness Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 Hi OOD hope you are doing well. I'm not sure if it's part of As or not but sexy texts and emails have always been part of my rels. (significant ones not just guys I date) the key to them is that you have to do what feels natural, if you give it too much thought it won't be sexy .So yeah if you are having a glass of wine and you let your sexy imagination run wild you send him a quick text to let him know your naughty thoughts, maybe a little fantasy that kind of thing. I find really fun sending spontaneous sexy date invites via text, you know tell him to meet you somewhere and to look for you and you surprise him as you wish if you get my drift Again the key to it is to do what feels natural to you even within something somewhat unnatural, and have fun with it...you get good at it the more comfortable you become. Gees I hope that was your question otherwise I will feel like a real knob for typing all that out Thanks for the advice! I'll see what I can do...should be interesting..
itgirl Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 we always send dirty emails and i write him erotic stories explaining what we will be doin!!!! He absolutly loves them. He's never done this kind of stuff with his W and it excites him and definatly gets him goin!!!!
OldEurope Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 We only ever discussed the war in Iraq. Then we married.
outofdarkness Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Once I really started thinking about it, I realized that he really is VERY compartmentalized..He wants or wanted to keep THAT part of his life one way and OUR life another..In other words, I don't think he would be very responsive or find it to his liking to have ME be the W who talks dirty, etc. to him...NOT criticizing OW or anyone for that matter who find that this helps their sex life/R, but I just can't see myself doing this..I'm just really conservative and reserved. Mabey there's a part of me just waiting to be released, IDK...BUT I think it would have to be while I'm dreaming or in some other sort of "twilight zone"...JMHO..
simplegirl Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 While sexy texts, notes and emails are pretty normal for me I don't get to do it with my MM. Text and email to me are too dangerous.
PoshPrincess Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 MM and I text from serious to silly to sexy texts!!! I think that is one of the fun things in a r/ship! He is the only one that I have really gotten used to texting sexy messages. I didn't have the flow before.. he brought it out of me!!! Just like Tomcat33 said - it's part of a r/ship... not just As. Same here! I'd never done that sort of thing before either but with MM it came naturally. We'd have text sex or text each other sexy dreams that we'd had. God, I miss that! Have done it with current BF on the odd occasion but it doesn't do it for me the way it did with MM (SIGH!!!)
Lyssa Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Same here! I'd never done that sort of thing before either but with MM it came naturally. We'd have text sex or text each other sexy dreams that we'd had. God, I miss that! Have done it with current BF on the odd occasion but it doesn't do it for me the way it did with MM (SIGH!!!) Yup, it didn't do me anything with this guy I was seeing but with MM it was just right and very sexy. Sometimes I wonder if there is 'phone-text chemistry'!
frannie Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 No, no dirty texts. Especially not if he was at home. In fact we don't text at all when he's home because that is one of the surest ways to get a d-day that you can imagine!!!
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