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Hi all. Girlfriend and I are almost on the way out, but there is a small window of opportunity for me here. She has "trust" issues as far as me "being" there in her times of need...there are two incidents that I wasn't there....I don't completely agree on this, but she feels hurt and abandoned.

 

With that said, she doesn't want to waste anymore time with a guy she feels won't be there for her when she needs him the most. She's on the fence and I want to establish trust again.

 

She will have to take a leap of faith and give me another try when she goes through another stressful situation.....then see if I'm there for her.

 

What do I do to establish this trust? I told her I would give her time to sort through things. We had a nice kiss after the talk and will be meeting each other for coffee on Thurs night.

 

Should I play it keeping it nice and light, give her space, call her every other day to see how she is? This type of thing? Checking in but not smothering type of deal. Thoughts?

 

I can only establish trust little by little IF she lets me into her life again.

 

Anyone? Help!

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People will often say this "you weren't there for me" when you feel like you were. This often has to do with different communication styles. Or sometimes you just can't be there for her. Sometimes these situations are situations that she has to handle on her own because you can not help her with it. Sometimes people can not understand that.

 

I say give her space, if it is looking ok, give her a call every once in a while, and let her know you will be there if she needs you.

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