tommycapnpants Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Hey all, some of you read my last post. just to remind you, my girlfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me while i was in beijing over the summer. well, i finally got home on sunday. she is staying at her friend anne's house, who she has started to date. that's right, i got dumped cause my ex is into girls now. . .but thats not the point. she broke it off with me about a month and a half ago. i was doing a lot better. but, when i got home to the empty house it felt like the first day after the break up again. i thought i would have built up a strong defensive barrier by now. . .but it all crumbled down. now every darn little thing reminds me of her. it's feels like i got dumped twice. we are supposed to have lunch or dinner to hash it out. i have no expectations of getting back together but i guess i need some closure. any suggestions would be great.
funkybassplayer Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Hey all, some of you read my last post. just to remind you, my girlfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me while i was in beijing over the summer. well, i finally got home on sunday. she is staying at her friend anne's house, who she has started to date. that's right, i got dumped cause my ex is into girls now. . .but thats not the point. she broke it off with me about a month and a half ago. i was doing a lot better. but, when i got home to the empty house it felt like the first day after the break up again. i thought i would have built up a strong defensive barrier by now. . .but it all crumbled down. now every darn little thing reminds me of her. it's feels like i got dumped twice. we are supposed to have lunch or dinner to hash it out. i have no expectations of getting back together but i guess i need some closure. any suggestions would be great. You may find that while you were building up strenth, that is still there, but its just a shock to the system now,but you may find that it will pass in a few days. I was the same, getting on ok, then the summer hols hit, and bam, but im feeling better now. (still miss her and the kids of course, but im not moping over it.)
sao2 Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Wish I could say it was good to see you back here, but it isn't, only because I wish you felt better about things. As I wish I felt better about things as well. But since you are here, sorry dude, I feel for you. I know this sounds crazy, but make changes to your life, you probably had some dreams you were compromising while you were together, go ahead and follow them now.
Author tommycapnpants Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 thanks for your support. saw her for the first time today since returning from china. it was good to see her. i didnt drop the ball by being overly emotional. if anything i may have been a little too stoic. took everything inside of me to keep it together though. feel better now though. not really sad anymore. just back to that empty feeling. i have been doing nothing but surfing since returning, but even that feels empty right now. good thing is school starts in about a week. good chance to meet new people and keep myself busy. how are things on your end sao? i have read your other posts and they are loaded with good points. keep them coming if you can. they really help.
sao2 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Good job on being stoic, I don't know if I could handle the lesbianism aspect in your case. In a moment of anger/hurt/insensitity I might find myself asking for a threesome. I "sort of" broke no contact today. I have a web page that is under construction and pretty much only she knows where it is. I left a message for her there. Basically she will only see it if she is checking up on me and no one else will ever find it. Other than that, guess I am ok. Been working out and looking to move my life forward again. I still want her back, but my desire to be over her is growing every day while my desire to have her back is decreasing every day.
sao2 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Well, I took the message down. It was up for a few hours. I wish I didn't care anymore.
funkybassplayer Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Well, I took the message down. It was up for a few hours. I wish I didn't care anymore. I did something like that a while back, left a link on my music website to it, and i figured that if she was interested she will look, but took it down as well. I dont know if she looked on it? maybe, but whatever. My head is in a good place now. I miss her and the kids, but im wishing them all a good holiday now, yes even her new chap. Whats the point in fighting something that you cant, best just go with it, and see what the road ahead will bring to my life next! I guess i miss her and chatting to her, but im sure in that heart of hers she misses me too. But who knows. Who knows what will happen in the future! last night i had a text from an ex i never heard from for 5 years! she must have looked for my number as it changed 5 times since, and found it through my music website. It shows if they want to find you they will. And just for the record, i smilled, but wont follow it up............
Ssheena Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 No matter how strong you may think you are, how stoic you can be, and how much you can pretend to be ok, you will still have moments where something will remind you of the other person and it will hurt. It will get better and by doing what you are, you are doing the best for you. Surfing all the time!! How bad can that be? Feel what you feel when it hits, and the rest of the time, look forward. Life can change in an instant, just keep moving and looking ahead.
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