uniqueone Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Someone here was talking about getting sad about the holidays and I told them I'd start a thread on it to discuss it (even though I can't stand discussing the holidays this early!) I've never liked the holidays and they make me depressed and I dread them. I've never really had very good holidays and have definately had my share of bad ones. But these last couple of years, I've been trying to make changes in a lot of things and one of them is in how I think. About a year or two ago, I decided that instead of fighting it--because it's going to come anyway, whether I like it or not---I'm going to find something to like about it to enjoy it. Because if I don't, then I'm just wishing that part of my life away. A woman I'd met online a few years ago, had told me how she dreaded the holidays as she was all alone. She wanted to sleep through the entire thing and in fact, even took sleeping pills to do so on xmas day. From November through January, she wished it away. And it extends until February as well due to V-day. I know a guy who does the same thing every year as well. If you do that, you're wasting those days. If you're young, this might not seem like such a big deal but I hope it does. Remember....it's JUST a day. Tell yourself that. Each of those holidays is JUST a day. A day like any other day. You imagine everyone is having tons of fun, right? That's what Hallmark wants you to believe. That's what sells Ipods. That's what gets people to go into debt. The elusive dream of a magical world. *POP!* Wake up! It's January 2nd! Your bills are due and you don't have the money to pay them. Where's Hallmark NOW? There's no greeting card for that one, is there? And your family? Well, you've remembered why you only see them twice a year. And the kids.....they're already bored with their toys and o.d.-ed on sugar and are having mood swings. Those happy couples that were holding hands? Some of the married ones are making an appointment to see a marriage counselor the following week because the tension during the holidays festivities pushed things over the edge. Couples who were dating suddenly are breaking up. Their relationships have been over for a month now but they didnt want to be without someone for the holidays so they stuck it out. Yes, it's true....there are a lot of breakups after January 1rst. So what are you feeling so down about again??? That you're not one of them??? What can you find to enjoy in the holidays? For me, the year I decided to do that, I said to myself that I thought that the lights were pretty. It sounds silly, I know....but I thought I could at least find some joy looking at the colored lights. Personally I really hated all the gaudy xmas decorations that I'd been seeing so much of but at least with the lights, I liked those....that and the wreaths. So, I decided that I would actually try to enjoy the holidays which was totally against my nature. But why fight it? It's going to happen anyway and you don't want to wish your time away. Can you find something in the season to enjoy?
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