Lucky555 Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 So i am posting again because he won't get the hint. I tried to dump this guy last week and he said "do you enjoy hanging out with me" i say yes cuz i do but i Just don't see an "US" EVER!! So he said well why don't we just continue hanging out and seeing where it goes even if we are just friends. Gosh, i was like ok thinking that we could be just friends and it was completely platonic then he plants a kiss on me that friday. So, i have been able to not hang out with him for two weeks and he didn't try moves on me this week. ITS GETTING BETTER!! He hears through other people that I don't want to be with him and i am giving very clear signals that were friends (we work in a big place together, still i keep things civilized) HOWEVER, this past saturday he invited me out to a water park. I said no because i was 2 hours away visiting a friend. Now this guy didn't get the hint after completely avoiding him and not pursuing him for about a week? So, otherwise its hard to just dump him because of work and i want friends but not really because obviously i dated him and hes a "loser" and i find this out after. Nothing sexual happened, good thing for that. So he really wants me to go to his games because he shows me off to his group of friends. I think i will become a snobby bitch...which i have been showing more signs of but seriously it works to some degree. However, he is still pursuing. BLAH. So what do i got to do....i cant complete eliminate contact with him but everytime i try to talk he never listens. He does this thing like ok just seeing if you wanted to go ttyl! I can't even break it off. On thursday of last week i told my guy friend who is his friends that i was going to call him that night and he never answered his cell and i think its because he knew i was going to terminate things!!! GEEZ i can't get through to him!! The lesson i have learned DONT DATE GUYS AT WORK! For me it always ends.
jcster Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 Don't hang out with him anymore - it's the only way that you are going to get through to him. When he asks you to events, tell him you're busy. It's the only way.
Alexandra-Girl Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 Tell him that you clearly told him that you were not interested in a physical relationship with him. He overstepped his boundaries by kissing you, now making meetings awkward. You wish to have little contact with him, meaning limited to the professional working environment. I agree with JCSTR that telling him you are busy is an option, but clearly your hints are not serving a concrete answers. You inadvertantly are creating 'opportunity in the future for another invite'. It sounds like there is a mixed message being received on his part, which you haven't exactly stomped out. You must be more firm with this man. He is a pursuer and they need a firmer answer than a shy man would. Regards, Alex
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