Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 im dating a player, i like it, i know the risks, please tell me the rules.
directx Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 To quote Joshua from the movie WarGames: "A strange game. The only winning move is not to play." Otherwords, I wouldn't play around with a player.
Author Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 To quote Joshua from the movie WarGames: "A strange game. The only winning move is not to play." Otherwords, I wouldn't play around with a player. i know that but as i said i like it. and im not in a position to date properly right now so i might as well have some great sex with a guy who wont feel bad when i leave or move on. but i need to know how to keep him till im finished.
bish Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 im dating a player, i like it, i know the risks, please tell me the rules. Rules to dating a player? Sorry..there are none. Well, maybe one...don't whine, moan and bitch when the player "plays" you.
bish Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 i know that but as i said i like it. and im not in a position to date properly right now so i might as well have some great sex with a guy who wont feel bad when i leave or move on. but i need to know how to keep him till im finished. Well then you are a player too. So whats the problem?
tanbark813 Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 but i need to know how to keep him till im finished. Don't get emotionally attached and just have fun. If you start to feel attachment you're probably setting yourself up for some pain.
TerryTeardrop Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 How do you know he is a player? Rule 1: USE A CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!! Rule 2: USE A CONDOM Rule 3: Revert to rules 1 & 2
Author Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 Well then you are a player too. So whats the problem? i am just learning and i like to be good at everything i do or there is no point even playing
Author Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 Don't get emotionally attached and just have fun. If you start to feel attachment you're probably setting yourself up for some pain. sometimes a little pain is nice. i carry a first aid kit. my cell phone with lots of back ups i collect phone numbers and tips
amerikajin Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 There are no rules. You can say "keep feelings out of it" all you want, but once you develop the feelings, there's no going back. Wear condoms and go into it knowing the risks.
Author Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 where do you live in the UK Grim? bangor co down were r u from
TerryTeardrop Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 South England! So how do you know he is a player? Did he tell you?
Author Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 South England! So how do you know he is a player? Did he tell you? no i can read the signs and i have seen him in action. and the way he got me wasn't like normal dating, but it blew me away, cus i thought he was outta my league. thought it wud be a one night stand, but ten months later he is still interested, dunno why though, i just do wat i do no acting, just a wicked sense of humour, he seems to like that;)
Mustang Sally Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 I get the feeling that you might be thinking that you can "change" him from his player-ways. And what a coup that would be for your (most assuredly) wily feminine ways, no? What personal validation! Good luck with that, girlfriend. If you CAN, then he is not really a "Player" (at least not anymore). Otherwise, you will be asking us to carry you through the inevitable pain and suffering that will eventually ensue.
Author Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 I get the feeling that you might be thinking that you can "change" him from his player-ways. And what a coup that would be for your (most assuredly) wily feminine ways, no? What personal validation! Good luck with that, girlfriend. If you CAN, then he is not really a "Player" (at least not anymore). Otherwise, you will be asking us to carry you through the inevitable pain and suffering that will eventually ensue. he is a player i will fall for him he will hurt me unless i get bored first but if he changes then i dont want him anyway its his way and thats what attracted me in the first place. im not ready for a relationship with strings and i like the games we play:cool:
Mustang Sally Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 Then you are a player, too. Talk to Lizzie. She is probably one of the best women to give you advice in your situation. Again, good luck with that.
Author Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 Then you are a player, too. Talk to Lizzie. She is probably one of the best women to give you advice in your situation. Again, good luck with that. thank you not really a player just an amature and do not intend going professional
Mustang Sally Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 You know. I think you are completely infatuated with the ego-strokes you are getting off this "relationship" with your eye-candy. I can certainly understand the addictive nature of that. And I am not condemning you for wanting that or enjoying it. It feels good to be validated in that kind of (physical) way, and I can certainly empathise with you on that. But ultimately (as a wise friend I have tells me often) that kind of attraction will fade and then you will be left with little lasting substance from that relationship. I would just recommend you do some hard thinking about how you will deal with that when the time comes. I think it's kind of like any other addiction. The longer it goes on and the more of it you get, the harder you will fall when it is no longer there for you. Be realistic with yourself. And don't expect him to change. Realize I am a woman - and definitely NOT a player - so my advice to you is, of course, tainted by those facts.
BlueEyedSarah Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 im dating a player, i like it, i know the risks, please tell me the rules. Wear a condom (players have sex with more than one woman and can spread a STD to you).Don't fall for him as you will only get hurt.Players lie.
IpAncA Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 My brother is a player and all I'm saying is don't expect anything serious because it's not happening and there are no rules. Gosh, I feel sorry for some of those girls. One even went psycho on his myspace with comments. Your probably not the only one he's dating btw.
Author Grim Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 I think you are completely infatuated with the ego-strokes you are getting off this "relationship" with your eye-candy. i am But ultimately (as a wise friend I have tells me often) that kind of attraction will fade and then you will be left with little lasting substance from that relationship. I would just recommend you do some hard thinking about how you will deal with that when the time comes. I think it's kind of like any other addiction. The longer it goes on and the more of it you get, the harder you will fall when it is no longer there for you. i have been through this thinking it was the real thing and had my heart broken. i know this is a fantasy, but better to play with a player than hurt an innocent at the moment. when my life is totally sorted i have to live in the real world and he will bounce back. i know i can bounce back and i dont bring bad feelings into new relationships. so this is mr right now not mr right. Be realistic with yourself. And don't expect him to change. i think i am being realistic i know there will be pain but i can deal with it. i dont want him to change. Realize I am a woman - and definitely NOT a player - so my advice to you is, of course, tainted by those facts. i hate hurting people, but he called me, and he would dump me in a heart beat but the ego was crushed and i am having some fun.
Author Grim Posted August 8, 2007 Author Posted August 8, 2007 My brother is a player and all I'm saying is don't expect anything serious because it's not happening and there are no rules. Gosh, I feel sorry for some of those girls. One even went psycho on his myspace with comments. Your probably not the only one he's dating btw. like i said i dont want serious right now. i know he is seeing others. yes we use condoms. he tells me things i wanna hear right now.
directx Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Ok, you don't want serious, you realize it's not going to be serious with a player. You know he is seeing others and you are ok with that. You are using condoms. ANd he tells you what you want to hear. So whats the problem? SOunds perfect for your needs and his! Seriously.
Author Grim Posted August 8, 2007 Author Posted August 8, 2007 Ok, you don't want serious, you realize it's not going to be serious with a player. You know he is seeing others and you are ok with that. You are using condoms. ANd he tells you what you want to hear. So whats the problem? SOunds perfect for your needs and his! Seriously. ok when i first started the thread i didnt know the rules to keep him in my time scale and at my level, but thanks to a lot of good advice i have sorted out my on agenda and figured out his i can take the ups and downs in my stride now
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