AmorousDelight Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 If he inhales you and you are truly alive and enamored then he is probably not faking but still a horndog. If he inhales you and you feel dirty and violated then your subconscious female mind has picked up on inconsistencies and he is probably a sleezebucket and a horndog. Yes, things do pop up based on erotic mind fantasies, for example a girl that I am sexually infatuated who licks her lips, I just want to throw her on the table... So then, I notice that I cannot sit up for a few minutes until I think thoughts about Mrs Clinton or Barbara Streissand. Woops, did I just fess up to being a horndog as well? (I am in my early 30s)
Krytellan Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 This thread has me scratching my head. With all the women who talk about men being "unavailable", here we all are... ragging this guy for showing physical attention. I am officially confused. You have all proven that men truly are damned if they do and damend if they don't. No wonder you're never happy with men... you waffle with the bat of an eye.
Mustang Sally Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 This thread has me scratching my head. With all the women who talk about men being "unavailable", here we all are... ragging this guy for showing physical attention. I am officially confused. You have all proven that men truly are damned if they do and damend if they don't. No wonder you're never happy with men... you waffle with the bat of an eye. Hey- All I said was: He is a horndog. Never said that was bad, or undesirable, or anything. I personally appreciate horndogs, under the right circumstances!
directx Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Hey- All I said was: He is a horndog. Never said that was bad, or undesirable, or anything. I personally appreciate horndogs, under the right circumstances! Yes, there is a time and place. But when it gets to the point when a couple feels they need a public audience and it borders on sensual, its just repulsive.
Krytellan Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Yes, MustangSally, you are excused When I read the original post, I thought it was a sensual and appreciated thing but it seems like the popular consensus was "oooh what a creepy and needy pig". Just a little baffled is all. Is this not what women want? Did I miss the key phrase of the post that made it creepy?
Star Gazer Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Is this not what women want? Did I miss the key phrase of the post that made it creepy? Here: If he is constantly touching you....almost always in a state of constant contact with you? When he gazes intently at you, when he gets so close behind you that you can feel his breath on your neck, and he stares... ...anything as long as he is touching you? Purposeful, needless touching, just to touch... it is like he feels compelled, almost possessed.... Creepy.
Krytellan Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Here: Creepy. Can't you put me on "ignore" or something?
kitty99b Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 to me too much touching shows insecurity. like he's afraid of loosing you and want to touch as much as possible (it case it happens). and you know if he is insecure then he's got a whoel lot more issues that you dont know about be wary!!
shadowplay Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 I agree with kitty. A guy like that may be overly possessive. He's constantly flaunting his "ownership" of you in public. It doesn't sound very healthy.
Star Gazer Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 Can't you put me on "ignore" or something? You asked a question - specifically what the OP said about her BF's behaviors that led us to think they were creepy, and I provided you with her choice of words. Nothing more. I'm not sure why you want to start an argument out of it.
Author Limerent Posted August 9, 2007 Author Posted August 9, 2007 I thought it was a sensual and appreciated thing but it seems like the popular consensus was "oooh what a creepy and needy pig". Just a little baffled is all. Yeah, I got that feeling too, as it seem to quickly turn negative. I think I mentioned that this had nothing to do with PDA... There was even some insinuation to one or both of us being married to other people, I think...(we are not) And you are right...it was a sensual and appreciated thing...I was just so caught up in the awe of aware he was of my presence, and it confused me. It just seems so natural, and heated...like he really feels like we belong together. Now, I dont mind if people view that differently, and I was expecting as much, thats why I asked the question, so I could get all different types of opinions. But this is NOT about PDA, and it is also NOT about cheating on people. I have had boyfriends in the past, and they were touchy at first...and of course it quickly died down. This kind of touching seems so earthy and raw, and sensual. Just wondered if there was anything to it.
Mustang Sally Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 This kind of touching seems so earthy and raw, and sensual. Just wondered if there was anything to it. Sounds like this guy is really into you. Like you two have some pretty (explosive? ) chemistry going on. I think that's great! What more "anything to it" are you looking for?
Author Limerent Posted August 9, 2007 Author Posted August 9, 2007 What more "anything to it" are you looking for? Not sure exactly...just needing to know if this is following the norm of the begining of most normal relationships...I mean, I understand that the begining is always more physical, but...I dont know...I want to know if what we have is special? Sincere? I could have sworn that he was touching me from his soul, but maybe not? I am not very experienced in this type of thing, and I guess I am wondering if his words fall directly in line with his actions... He says that he felt instantly connected to me since the first time he saw me. He said that this is not something that can be ignored. He said that he knows I am the one. He always knew it from the begining. Okay....basically......about how far into me is he really?
Citizen Erased Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 My bf slaps and grabs my ass whenever he can Is that the same? *sighs* romance in our case is truly dead :bunny:
Mustang Sally Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 Not sure exactly...just needing to know if this is following the norm of the begining of most normal relationships...I mean, I understand that the begining is always more physical, but...I dont know...I want to know if what we have is special? Sincere? I could have sworn that he was touching me from his soul, but maybe not? I am not very experienced in this type of thing, and I guess I am wondering if his words fall directly in line with his actions... He says that he felt instantly connected to me since the first time he saw me. He said that this is not something that can be ignored. He said that he knows I am the one. He always knew it from the begining. Okay....basically......about how far into me is he really? Hon, I don't know if we, as a group of internet "friends," can really answer these questions for you. Even if you give us more details about your interactions with this guy, I really believe that the only two people who can ever really know what goes on between two people are those two people, themselves. The rest of us just don't (can't) have enough details and inside info to make an accurate interpretation. (Doesn't stop us from trying, however! ) You sound afraid to let your heart lead you with this. What are you afraid of?
Author Limerent Posted August 9, 2007 Author Posted August 9, 2007 You sound afraid to let your heart lead you with this. What are you afraid of? Pretty much the same thing as everyone else is afraid of...getting hurt, being used, trusting, letting go. The standard things. I guess your right, it is up to me to figure it out. Thanks you guys, anyway.
Mustang Sally Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 Pretty much the same thing as everyone else is afraid of...getting hurt, being used, trusting, letting go. The standard things. Well, there's nothing wrong with that. Sounds pretty normal to me. But nothing venture, nothing gained, as 'they' say. Has this guy given you any reason to doubt his sincerity? Or are you gun-shy for another reason altogether?
Author Limerent Posted August 9, 2007 Author Posted August 9, 2007 Has this guy given you any reason to doubt his sincerity? Or are you gun-shy for another reason altogether? He is just rowdy and seems to know what he wants, which I am guessing at the moment is me, or at least thats what he says. He appears to be going the extra mile and everything he says is on the up and up. I just dont want to rush in, and I am not in a hurry to become so immersed again. He seems to think it is a forgone conclusion that we will be together, and is treating it as such. I have tons of fun and stuff...I feel he's right for me. I just have intimacy issues, and I am afraid that its going to be headed there soon. He picks up on my hesitancy,and reassures me, but I am embarrassed by it. I just want to be as free and intimate as he is. I feel it, I feel right with him, I feel connected...but I feel damaged too. But I guess that is a whole other issue and topic. Such is life, I suppose.
AngryHeartache Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Erm, I'd be careful with this kind of guy to be honest. He sounds like he might be abit sleezy I mean, touching, brushing, etc. are all great signs of being attracted to someone and liking them in "that" way, but if he's going this far and you're not even together...I;d bloody well watch out! Especially since you 're saying he touched "other parts" Ermmm...WTF?!?!?! lol. If you wanna go for it, gor for it...but this guy sounds like playa material, to be perfectly honest with ya! You don't just feel a girl up, lmao...it's weird.
Yamaha Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 He just has a very strong connection with you. You must have put his Geiger counter into maximum overload. When you are very attracted to someone you want to show your affection to them. He is very much in- lust with you and lots of people would love to be you. If it bothers you then you can tell him to cool it while your in public but it might hurt him and you run the risk of him taking it as rejection. I would just enjoy it and not worry what others think.
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I wasn't certain if you two had something going at first. Now that I know you're not dating, I wish I knew the rest of your interactions. There is some strong physical chemistry happening here or he's quite the player or both. I wouldn't push him away because it's obvious you're interested but I would take your time in getting to know him before you emotionally invest. If you're wired in the way that you can keep both sex and emotions separate, have a night with him and then see what happens afterwards. Once again, I have to be honest and I prefer someone who enjoys contact, as long as it's discreet.
DH27 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 He might just like you a lot. With my current girlfriend (well not really girlfriend...its complicated...) i love being in contact with her. Whether its just holding her hand, or having my arms around her when we are just standing in line at cedar point or something, laying on the couch together. Its probably nothing about being a horndog...he probably just has a really strong attraction to you. Thats how it is with me and my girl
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