camelia Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]hello to everybody I'm married and i live abroad with my husband,I'm 26 years old and i've been happily married for 2 years[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]2 weeks ago" a friend from church send me an e-mail saying that my sister( 25)is doing drugs and that she is a lesbian and that she cheats on her boyfriend with several men even my " friend's boyfriend".well,since these are very serious accusations and i had seen her before cheating on her boyfriend i did think that maybe she was really on drugs and i did trust on this "trustworthy" sister in Christ" so i decided to call my mother and tell her the whole story,( have should i called my sister first??)asking her to find out what was really going on!!!. 4 days later my sister called me very angry and yelling at me saying that everything was a lie( it really was about drugs, my "friend" said that to my mother) and she also said that i should have called her first and not my mother ,i explained to her that considering that she was really on drugs she would not have listened to me as most of drug addicts do. she says she is hurt because i believed on those words, i explained to her that since she was always a party girl, crazy about Rastafarian culture and never liked school and serious stuff and that she even had dated a married man, so i had my doubts.was i wrong?? i said " trust is something that you should water like a plat through facts !!![/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]she said that i should have never said all the truth to my mother since she trust on me as a sister, but i thought that it was my duty since my parents still believe she is still a girl who ask for money to go out, i said if she wants to be a " woman" outside my parents house she should be a woman in every aspect, studying, working, helping and stuff,considering that living in south America could be hard sometimes.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]she says that i have always hate her and that i always wanted her to be the black sheep of the family and that i want her to look bad in front of my parents so i can be the perfect daughter.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]now she says that I'm wrong and that i need psychological advice and that she is willing to forget all the bad things that had happened between us..what things?? I've always been extremely responsible and i do like things go well, my boss loves me, my students do, i helped my parents and even helped her,i have a beautiful marriage and i want all the best in the world for her and maybe she thinks I'm bad because my points of view are very strict and I'm this way because life is hard ,not a fairy tale.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I've been thinking about saying yes, yes you're tight to please her and avoid her to hate me and keep my parents calm.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]she's going to settle down abroad with her boyfriend and she will see how hard is being a wife, a worker (she hasn't studied anything but a year of English language because my mother begged on her ), a "foreigner", she has no idea how painful sometimes can be living miles away from family, friends and country!! should i wait till she face up the real life?[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]what should i do?please help me!!![/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT]
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