Andromache Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 This is my first post...i was just desperately googling to find anyone, anything that could help me. In late June, I was travelling round Europe and I met a Australian guy in Croatia. We had a fabulous night together but the next day we had to go our seperate ways, and he left me all his contact details. A week or so later when I returned home, we got in touch on msn, and we began to spend all night talking to each other with our webcams and such. We agreed to meet (he lives in london), and from then on, and i didnt think this was possible, but we started to fall for each other over msn. The feeling was very mutual. After what seemed like forever, we met, spent a fabulous 24 hours together and hated saying goodbye, even though we would certainly be meeting again. He was talking about moving up to live near me, and he wanted to so very much. We had a few problems which had to be worked out, but there was nothing huge, and we were so in love that they didnt matter. It has been two weeks since i saw him last, and he abrutly decided he couldnt handle a relationship with me. I feel like the rugs been pulled underneath me, because ive lost so much. I know we couldve been great together, and he knows this too. Im devastated. Theres more here, than ive written down, but i cant handle thinking about it all again. Ive never felt as bad as this before...not in any break up ive been in. Please, if you ca help anyway...thanks.
Lhillenb18 Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 Well, I had something like this last summer. I got so excited about it then nothing. It was so bad. But, it just takes some time. The bottom line is space, give him space. I hope everything works out and I am so sorry, but I do know how you feel.
Author Andromache Posted August 6, 2007 Author Posted August 6, 2007 It was more than a summer fling though, like summer love. Some of the things he used to say to me...i was his princess. The only reason I can figure out why he's done this is because his ex really screwed him over, and he never wants to get hurt like that again. I asked him if he got freaked out because he was falling for me so much, and he said yes. He said that he was destined to walk this earth alone, and he's fine with that. I just want to make him see sense, that he doesnt have to.
TerryTeardrop Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 stop! You feel as bad as you do because he is the 'dream man' he is this man because you do not know him, he is the one that got away You do not know him well enough to be on love with him, it is lust (it feels like love) and you was still in the honeymoon stage To have this pulled from you is awful and feels worse than losing someone you loved for years and lived with. \the emotion is more intense becaise he is perfect in your eyes. You dont even know his bad points. You dont know him at all and he is perfect to you I think you should stop contacting him as he has his own agenda and let him come to you. You will chase him away if you go after him I wish you strength and love in the future!
Penny99 Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 I know that it's possible to feel so much after so little time but you must remember the timescales involved and realise that it isn't possible to know someone so well that you can already know how well things would have been. Don't forget, he's already decided that it isn't for him and it takes both of you to want it to make it work. I know that's hard to accept a tthe moment and it probably doesn't help to hear that time will heal... I would never suggest giving up and cutting off communication, but I don't usualy find that pursuit helps in these matters. It usually has the opposite effect. Try to enjoy yourself if possible and remember that you are important. You are worth more than being made miserable and I'm sure you will find something lasting when the time is right.
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