girlie908 Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 Ok so me and my ex boyfriend have been broken up for a month and a half. We broke on my birthday (fun stuff), then two days later, he told me he brought Justin Timberlake tickets for me to watch in concert with him in August (5 days from now!) and that I wasn't grateful whenever he did do something for me. Well I mean I was kind of peeved because he didn't even greet me happy birthday on my birthday (we had gotten into a fight), and buys the tickets with no intention of telling me until I break up with him. Fast-forward. We talk 3 weeks later, we meet up in the city for two hours and it's like a dream. We hug, laugh, kiss, hold hands, the works, and it's so dumb because it's just like we forgot why we broke up in the first place. We get in a screaming match after that because he's still mad at me over how we broke up and why we were broken up (he basically told me I was the worst influence on his life, that I'm a horrible person, I never let him do anything, I was needy, etc.. ) and I accepted it when I definitely shouldn't have. I felt like it was emotional abuse and stuck it to him. My mother had passed away the a year ago and I needed all the support and love I could get but he was resentful for how much he had to be there for me, and I feel like I should not have to apologize for that. So we stop talking again, and then we start talking again (I don't remember why) and then I start relying on him again. I'm not home this summer, I'm up at school taking 3 strenuous summer classes and am very stressed out (especially about my mother's one year death anniversary which was 3 days ago) so I called him and vented to him and he was there for me which I was really happy about. We keep in touch and since I went home last weekend to celebrate the one year death anniversary, he said he would pick me up from the bus station and bring me home. I stay at his place that night, and sparks fly, again. We end up going at it like crazy (we hadn't done anything in 2 months) and act couply once again. He drives me home, he spends time w/ my family (who love him) and we continue acting coupley, even though we both reiterate the fact that yes, we are no longer a couple. Anyways, I start getting antsy and scared about my emotions. Sometimes I feel like I wear my heart on my sleeve, and especially since I was vulnerable being at home because of everything I was just scared of falling for him, especially since he kept saying he didn't want to be in a relationship. I shouldn't have been so stupid to think acting coupley, holding hands, constantly hugging and kissing just isn't acceptable for "friends" to do, but he just kept saying we were different kind of friends. So later yesterday night, I voice my opinions on how I'm scared of him, how what if I want something more, and that I'm afraid I'm falling for him. He gets mad at me saying I'm ruining a good thing, and basically tells me I love drama, and super needy, and need a doormat as a bf (I didn't understand that, but he sure knows how to make me feel ****ty about myself). I get really upset since I just told him how I was falling for him and how I was scared, and that gets thrown in my face, so he leaves in a huff and drives away, even though I'm begging him not to since it's 2am and he lives an hour and a half away so I would be worried. I text him to get home safely, but now I am just livid. How dare he think he can just treat me this way, get pissed at me and make me apologize? I deserve wayy better than this. Anyway the reason for this post is I don't know what to do! The Justin Timberlake concert is in 5 days, and I don't want to go. I feel like if I don't go, it'll ruin our friendship forever since the tickets were obviously really expensive and he'll claim that I don't appreciate what he does for me. But on the other hand, I'm so mad that he thinks he can just treat me this way and get away with it, plus I don't really want to see his face anytime soon. Any suggestions with what I should do? If I don't go to the concert, which is Friday, then I would go home Thursday night after my finals for the rest of the summer. I don't want to piss him off or make him hate me, I want to be his friend, but I don't know if I can handle seeing him and if I do if I'll just fall under his spell again. Ahhh please give me some advicee it's coming up soo soon!
Author girlie908 Posted August 7, 2007 Author Posted August 7, 2007 anyone have any thoughts or ideas? pleasse i need some advice and quick!
BlueEyedSarah Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 I think you should go in NC with him, forget about the JT concert and forget him, he is treating you like a pile of dog crap, he can not get away with that. I cant beleive you put up with it.
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