loveinlife Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 Anyone finding a relationship too troublesome at times? I think im used to living without a girl, been a few weeks since i've felt this way. I see so much trouble and problems in it, from LS and from friends that is making me turn away from getting involved. Today just another friend called me about her problems and insecurities. Last night, i was talking to another girl about her problem with her boyfriend, who is also my friend. There is too much pain involved in relationships. I no longer see it as a happily ever after fairy tale ending. All things come to an end and nothing is forever. I am sounding such a pessimist. What do you guys/girls think? If you guys don't know about my past, i was a dumpee of a two years old relationship, a girl i lived with for and have loved unconditionally. k enough of me, lets hear from you guys. =)
Trialbyfire Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 It's not that relationships aren't worth it. It's more that people can get burnt out on them. When this happens, take a breather from them and relax. Go date and simply enjoy it. Forget about finding "the one". This can be so exhausting and feel so futile.
Nemo Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 Last night, i was talking to another girl about her problem with her boyfriend Wow. What a great opportunity. , who is also my friend. Bummer, dude. Stuck in the friend zone. Look, it's quite simple. Love isn't everything - it's the only thing. Without love, life is meaningless. Which reminds me. It's been at least two whole hours since I last loved myself. Bye for now.
funkybassplayer Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 Your only thinking like this cos you still hurt-natural, and you are doing the best thing by looking at your self. This is vital if your too move forward without any baggae. dont jump into anything, what s the point? you have to know in your head that your ready, and you will look for the right one. We attract people depending on our state of mind. If your needy, you may attract some1 who is not. You have to be ready as a person, then you will find as close to perfect for you, cos you will be ready to take the time and look, and your jugment wont be clouded by getting someone to fill a void that the ex may have left. you fill that void first by your self, and then you will be happy. -just a thought.
Author loveinlife Posted August 6, 2007 Author Posted August 6, 2007 Im definitely not looking for anything... i am just seeing too many drama in relationships that its becoming discouraging to get involved. I am happy for my current state to face my fears alone and not counting on another person to help me. Not being dependent as to say. =) but there are lots of times when i still think of my ex, that is why im still here O.o
Author loveinlife Posted August 6, 2007 Author Posted August 6, 2007 Trying my best to stay strong and self improve. =)
funkybassplayer Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 Your healing, and finding happyness on your own. thats great, things will improve. Of course you miss the ex we all do, but its up to us to move forward and enjoy life.
Author loveinlife Posted August 6, 2007 Author Posted August 6, 2007 Thanks funk, was rough, first love and first experience of heartbreak... will have to learn from this and not to make the same mistakes. how are things going for you?
funkybassplayer Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 I have good and bad days. I guess the summer hols are hard as the ex, her kids and me had so much planned. i guess they are all doing the plans with the new chap. Yesterday i woke up upset, on my own, but im taking lessons on phycology. At first i felt myself slipping, but i remembered what my coach said. I went out in the garde, and started to try to connect with the world around me, and felt myself going to a much calmer place. by the evening, i felt i was happy for my ex and thier kids haveing a good time, be it with the new fella. (im guessing) And i also felt that i did my best for them all, and i have nothing to feel bad about. I was taking the responsibility for the break-up myself, when in fact i was not responsible for how she treated me, and i did my best in the circumstances. I guess i know deep down we could have worked, but she took the easy way out, and started that honeymoon phase again with some1 new. I have no control over that, but all i can do is be there for her if she needs me, and look after myself. THANK YOU FOR ASKING.
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