sao2 Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 After my relationships end I always like to do a little "debrief" if you will and readjust my "dream partner" because how are we ever going to find the right person for us if we don't know who we are looking for? Thinking back, my ex was everything I want(ed) from my dream partner, little did I know that there were still things would find lacking . I mean it, my ex satisfied my previous list to a "t". So now I give you my revised "dream girl" 1) Mutual attraction 2) Agrees that passion and sex is an important element of a partnership 2a) Sexual appetite for me that matches mine for her 3) She gets along with her family, not superficially either, rather she has genuinely good relations with her family. 4) She must love to dance 5) She must cook(healthy food too) 6) She isn't afraid to take a risk for love 7) She understands the balance between being independent and being a partner and that sometimes you have to be willing to compromise. 8) She understands that fate brings you choices, and fate doesn't always give you a second chance at a choice 9) The ability to be childlike when appropriate 10) She laughs at my jokes. Also she makes me laugh and smile at her jokes. 11) A smile and laugh that makes me want to bring smiles and laughter to her whenever I can. I encourage anyone and everyone who is coping to make such a list, you can share, or not. But think not just about your recent ex, think about all the people you have loved and what you loved about them, and what prevented the two of you from truly reaching "It". After this step the next step is realizing what kind of person you have to be in order to attract your "dream partner" I'll post about that later. After I have thought about it a bit longer.
funkybassplayer Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 I would'nt have conditions for my dream girl, cos if shes my dream then im happy!
Author sao2 Posted August 5, 2007 Author Posted August 5, 2007 It's not about imposing conditions, you are looking at this all wrong. Rather it is about moving on, realizing that your ex was not the end all be all. Making a list like this helps to understand what you didn't like and it helps you to look towards the future with optimism. As long as you view your ex as "the dream" or "perfect for you" you will be preventing yourself from truly moving on.
Aliddy Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 O.k. so my list needs to be up-dated... What would qualities would I like my partner to have... 1) to communicate with me 2) to prefer to discuss problems, rather than walking away 3) to be able to laugh, both at himself and at me 4) to think my feelings are important 5) to trust me, as what I say I mean..... That does not seem very much at all ....... Yet, it is vital for me to be with someone who has those values................
McFadden Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 1.) Not overweight to an unhealthy extent. 2.) Between 5'6 and 6'0 3.) Long hair that is in good condition. 4.) Doesn't have taste in music/movies that is annoying to me. 5.) Is involved in MMORPGs or at least supports my heavy involvment in MMORPGs 6.) Is a good friend/type person to hang out with
Yamaha Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 So now I give you my revised "dream girl" 1) Mutual attraction 2) Agrees that passion and sex is an important element of a partnership 2a) Sexual appetite for me that matches mine for her 3) She gets along with her family, not superficially either, rather she has genuinely good relations with her family. 4) She must love to dance 5) She must cook(healthy food too) 6) She isn't afraid to take a risk for love 7) She understands the balance between being independent and being a partner and that sometimes you have to be willing to compromise. 8) She understands that fate brings you choices, and fate doesn't always give you a second chance at a choice 9) The ability to be childlike when appropriate 10) She laughs at my jokes. Also she makes me laugh and smile at her jokes. 11) A smile and laugh that makes me want to bring smiles and laughter to her whenever I can. I would revise it to say, "My Dream Women" as there are many women who could fit these requirements. The concept of 1 person being your "everything" is to limiting and incorrect.
McFadden Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 Oh yeah mine was also supposed to be dream boy. But I guess it could be dream girl as long as the person fit those requirments, I'm pretty open.
Author sao2 Posted August 6, 2007 Author Posted August 6, 2007 Of course "dream women" is more appropriate. I don't forget that there are many women in this world that are "suitable" for dating. Thanks for the reminder though.
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