WhiteKnight Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 Well everyone, I am finding it very difficult lately about my girlfriend had gone back home overseas to Hong Kong to live with her parents because her VISA had expired. The good thing between us was that we had a 12 month (onsite) relationship and I felt good with her. She's graduated from University now but all of sudden her VISA had expired at the end of last month and was forced to go home. It was a sad feeling though, and I do miss her a lot. She calls me once in awhile but I am feeling lonely and can not concentrate on my Uni studies. I have 6 months to go but I am finding it hard to focus or even force myself to study. We are still continuing the relationship, despite the distance thing. I tried playing computer games and that distracts me but you know, I'm supposed to be studying. Not playing games too much. So can anyone advise me how to deal with this?
funkybassplayer Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 Well everyone, I am finding it very difficult lately about my girlfriend had gone back home overseas to Hong Kong to live with her parents because her VISA had expired. The good thing between us was that we had a 12 month (onsite) relationship and I felt good with her. She's graduated from University now but all of sudden her VISA had expired at the end of last month and was forced to go home. It was a sad feeling though, and I do miss her a lot. She calls me once in awhile but I am feeling lonely and can not concentrate on my Uni studies. I have 6 months to go but I am finding it hard to focus or even force myself to study. We are still continuing the relationship, despite the distance thing. I tried playing computer games and that distracts me but you know, I'm supposed to be studying. Not playing games too much. So can anyone advise me how to deal with this? I think you may have to let her go. Its a massive trek and unless your gonna go over there, it will just stop you from moving on and meeting some1 new. Maybe in a year you could be friends.
Chinook Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 I dunno, Oz isn't that far from Hong Kong. Sure it's a trek but it ain't a 16 hour flight like it is from the UK. But um, how do you fill a void where someone has been...? Not easy. First - quit acting like she left you - she hasn't left you - the relationship is still going is it not...? Second - do some stuff that you guys used to do and then write her an email or a letter about it, still include her in your life. So, if you go walking in the park, describe it to her - tell her you wish she was there. If you're at Uni and see people she knows, tell her about it. Third - get your backside in gear and get those studies organised. Get busy. If you don't graduate, there will be no job, if there's no job, then you have no chance of any flights to HK to see her. Right..? Plan properly. Focus. Fourth - change your situation. Get in contact with your friends, renew those friendships and spend time with people. She wasn't the only person in your life. Take up an activity, start running, cycling, swimming...anything but sitting in front of the computer. Fifth - make plans. Talk to her. Work out what you guys need to do to see each other again. Talk about the things you're going to do. Renew your promises to each other. Send each other pictures, trinket gifts and tokens of your love. The list is endless really. The key to it is to first stop burying yourself and stop wallowing.
Author WhiteKnight Posted August 5, 2007 Author Posted August 5, 2007 Um, funkybassplayer, me and my partner have not broken up yet. We are still attached but I will always be ready for that possibility though. First things first, I know she is alright so its more about me getting along with life now. Chinook, good advice there. Great to hear from you Yes I have to admit I don't have my studies into gear at the moment but I have been forcing myself to stay focus and manage it quite well. I have decided to repeat the idea of going to the library and study solidly like I did before last Semester when she was here. This time round I have encouraged my close friends who are studying the same courses as me to form a study group and help me get through my studies. With in regard to your fourth advice, I recently took up doing the Gym with a close friend of mine. As for walking and other activities, I'll see what I can do. The second advice, I plan on meeting a good friend of hers and tell her that she is well and all, but also get her friend to talk to me about her and how she is going and how much we do miss her. If I can get over this hump for the next week or so, I will be fine I think. I just need to kick some serious tail to graduate this year.
funkybassplayer Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 sorry appologies!! I guess you guys have to decide if this is what you want and the way forward.
Author WhiteKnight Posted August 6, 2007 Author Posted August 6, 2007 sorry appologies!! I guess you guys have to decide if this is what you want and the way forward. Heh that's cool bro. No problems, you didn't offend me anyways Just thought to clear things up lol
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