No contact in 5 days

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I have been seeing a man who claims he is not exclusive and he was seeing other people-only one that I am aware of-and can't be exclusive in his present situation. He has removed his profile from online dating as has his other female friend has. He has been going to see her out of state every week for the past 3 weeks at least-visits getting more frequent. Claims if he were ready I could be the one who he spends the rest of his life with but next day spends a week with the OW. I have helped him through some rough spots the last 8 months, was a real friend to him although I have not given him money. I supported him through in patient re-hab with visits and taking him things he needed but he did pay me for them. When I told him I couldn't see him anymore as long as he was staying with this other woman 3 and 4 days at a time, taking her to concerts and fancy dinners (he has never taken me to a fancy restaurant) I could no longer see him. The last 3 trips out of state he never told me he was going. Before when he went and bragged about all the things he did and places he went. He is in alcohol recovery doing well but because of his addiction he no longer has a regular job and is facing his second DUI court appearance in 3 weeks. I don't think that will turn out well for him and I know he will call me when it goes badly just like he called me when he got drunk and his other lady friend blew him off and went back to her home. I am 2 years post divorce-he is one. I do not drink but have a slight co-dependency problem because I have always done for everyone else and I am waiting for my turn for someone to take care of me. He has turned everything around and now that I don't want to see him because of the way the situation with the other woman makes me feel (I am obviously not good enough for a fancy dinner out) he tells me my self-destructive negativism shows through. Just a few months ago he told me how positive I have become since the divorce from a verbally abusive cop. I think he is a chronic cheater-2 marriages, many affairs. We were close friends and could talk about anything but I have now broken all contact. How do I get over missing the conversations and times spent together. We could talk for hours but because I woudln't put out because of the other woman, he basically told me what my faults are. How do I get him out of my mind. He is a master manipulator and always told me what he thought I wanted to hear. Now he no longer emails or calls and I have not contacted him because I have to get over this guy somehow. He is certainly exclusive with the OW.

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