chrisy484 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 My ex is starting to talk to me after he left me without a reason last year. I'm not going to take him back but he wants to meet up and talk or "catch up" as he calls it. I'm very suspicious. I think he no longer has his car (read story below) and is trying to talk to me again to use me once more. I'm wondering if I should even go over his place to sit and talk with him to see what he has to say, or should I just forget the whole thing altogether?? I need some advice on this one. Thanx Awhile back I posted this thread, it pretty much tells the story from the beginning: [Ready to be stumped, here it goes.... Well my bf of 6 months (or whatever he was) just recently got a car. Before this I used to drive him to and from work all the time, and not to brag, i was a damn good gf. I would pack him lunches for work, help him out when he was going through rough times, and even a week before all this i brought pizza to his job for him and all his friends. Anyways..... The night that he picked up his car he brought it to my house to show me!! NOWWW its like he just ended our relationship, he wants nothing to do with me! He hasnt officially said anything to me but he wont friend me on myspace, write me back when i send him messages on myspace, or answer my calls and im almost pretty sure its over. I am just SO CONFUSED its ridiculous. Before the car there was no sign of dis-interest on his part. Im almost certain i didnt do anything bad to him, and i just need everyones advice and help to ease my mind of this b/c he wont talk to me to tell me why or whats going on. As a matter of fact i was thinking of just showing up at his place tonite to see if he would stop to talk to me. Do guys do this? They just one day forget about you after all this time, like you were nothing at all? This has never happened to me. He has been a strange one to figure out from the beginning but this tops it all. What should I do here? Give me your true and honest oppinions also. Thanks:bunny: P.S. I also drove him all the time when he was in the process of getting this car , almost and hour away from where we lived. and now that he has it he's never taken me for a ride in it or showed his appreciation in anyway]
shadowplay Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 If I were you I would probably just meet with him for the sake of getting an explanation and telling him off. Of course, I would cut off all communication after that point, but I think meeting with him might give you some closure. Out of curiosity, is this the first contact of any kind (phone/im/whatever) you've had with him since he left you last year?
Author chrisy484 Posted August 5, 2007 Author Posted August 5, 2007 Yes, this is the first time we have talked since October of last year. He hasn't tried to get in touch with me until now. I was thinking of just talking with him like you said to get an explanation and rub it in a little lol.
jcster Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 It might be good for a laugh - but really, do you need to listen to his crap? He used you. He got a great "girlfriend" and a ride where ever he needed it. He used you until he didn't need you, and then he dropped you like a hot rock. If it were me, I'd just tell him "no thanks" and let him play his lame game elsewhere.
konfuzd Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 Just because I'd be curious as to his intentions, I'd talk to him, but definately would not meet up with him. Tell him he can say what he needs to over the phone, or via e-mail, as you don't want to waste your time going to see him after the way he treated you in the past. The problem with going out of your way constantly to be a "good girlfriend" is that men often see this as the "doormat girlfriend" and you will end up getting treated as such. It's too bad, because I know your intentions were good, but he turned out to be a boob who just took advantage of you. Good luck, keep us posted.
Author chrisy484 Posted August 5, 2007 Author Posted August 5, 2007 yeah i know deep down that he is a loser. he found me on myspace and as soon as i added him he added me to his top 8. we talked online for a few and i was short n sweet with everything that i said and later on i went on his page and he had me off his top 8 and some other chick up there... right then and there i knew he only wants one thing, and not to be with me again.
shadowplay Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 ^wait, so this just happened recently? the myspace thing i mean?
Author chrisy484 Posted August 5, 2007 Author Posted August 5, 2007 yes. it all started today. he found me on myspace and added me. i accepted the invite but i never wrote him. i went about the day did my errands, when i came home he sent me two messages. the first message he said something like " i know you hate me and i understand..." and the second message was his cell phone # and screename. i wrote him back and said that i didnt hate him, i played the nice and unhurt act basically. then we talked for awhile on aol. and i kept everything short and sweet. he asked me to come over so we could "Catch up" and that he has alot of movies and can use one of my back rubs. i told him i had plans for tonight and he got all upset and cut the conversation short. when i got home i took a look at his page and i saw that i was removed from his top 8 lol. im 23 yrs old, i dont have time for these petty games and i dont deserve to be treated like a door mat. if we meet to talk, im going to bring that up, that he removed me from the top 8 like i was nothing.
shadowplay Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 well, you did the right thing. If you do talk to him, let us know what he said. You've piqued my interest. Good luck!
nittygritty Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 I wouldn't go. Trust has been broken and seeing him won't make you feel better. Your putting yourself at risk of falling for him again and you already know how that turns out. It might be fun to tell him you'll meet him and then not show up.
Author chrisy484 Posted August 5, 2007 Author Posted August 5, 2007 I don't have that in me to not show up. It would be funny though lol. The reason y I want to go to his place in person is because I want to see if he still has his car, I don't know how to ask online. If he doesn't still have his car then I will know what he wants from me. He's just rushing back to me, the person who took care of him once before when he had nothing, to TRY to use me again. And then I can let him know that I know what he's up to.
Chinook Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 I have to agree. I wouldn't talk to him or meet him either. I'd remove him from my 'myspace' thing and I'd not go there. He treated you pretty badly so you have no reason to go there again. You ever hear that saying 'the best revenge is to live well'..? Now's your chance to show him that you don't need him. In fact, I wouldn't give him an explanation, I'd just cease contact with him.
lino Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 If you genuinely feel you're being used then I don't think you should continue contact with him.
AmorousDelight Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 first there is web then cell phone then meeting in public place then meeting in private place. You should not let him get past the cell phone stage and limit the cell phone to 1 call. let us know what happens.
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