playabum17 Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 My bf and I had this discussion, he is from the South. His philosophy is if he asks, he pays. There was a couple times I offered to pay for movies or whatever and he always said no. I did cook him dinner quite a bit when he was here, but mostly because he was sick of eating out. He was doing training and was never home, doing a lot of traveling and always eating out so I made meals, never anything fancy and I had to cook for me anyway so it was not a big deal.
Trimmer Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 BoyBoy sounds like the type of real MAN that I'd like to date. (And Trimmer too. I've pulled "Ninja Style" myself, and had it done to me as well...I like it. ) Honored...
directx Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 BoyBoy sounds like the type of real MAN that I'd like to date. (And Trimmer too. I've pulled "Ninja Style" myself, and had it done to me as well...I like it. ) So pretending to forget your wallet and doing an 'eat and run' is out of the question?
Trimmer Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 So pretending to forget your wallet and doing an 'eat and run' is out of the question? Let's just say that if you made a list of possible ways of dealing with the bill, and ordered them from "classy" to "not classy", this one would definitely be somewhere further down the list....
AmorousDelight Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 OK, if you ask the girl for a particular event or dinner, you pay. It is simple. Same w/ the girl, I expect her to buy me whatever she promised if she asks me for a date, but then I will usually pay for something else. But if you just ask her out for a drink and she orders 3 appetizers and main menu, that is her resposibility (or irresponsibility). I will always call the girl on it, since I see it as disrespectful to assume access to my resources including money, time, emotional reserves when she does not even know me and I have not qualified her as my desire. I am just saying, don't buy attention, or affection, it is there for you free regardless. Besides, she cannot control her attraction to you any more or less than you can control your attraction to her. Attraction is not her choice. So... I also disagree that it is wrong to tell a girl who you want that you are "just friends" in front of her. If you are in a heightened sexual momement where you are touching and looking in each other eyes, she will pick up instinctively on the words to sensation discrepancy and make a moment a conflict that will just heighten her curiosity for you in a sexual and nonsexual manner. This moment feels good and she will want to find out if you are real about being "a friend" or not. Girls, help me out here, am I right, or am I right? Just don't give up the moment and ruin it for the poor girl.
VIP Posted August 7, 2007 Posted August 7, 2007 I wouldn't want to date a guy, who wants me to pay. And I wouldn't invite him to a restaurant either, that's up to him.
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