MamaLove Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 :confused:My head is about to burst. I have know my best friend for 20years, since childhood. Over the years our friendship grew stronger and stronger. I have always known that he has liked me in the past. Our timing has always been off. We were with different people. I have also believed to be the woman in his life. We share everything together. EVERY SINGLE time the I see him my face lights up, my heart beats so fast, my palms sweat, every part of my senses ignites. I see the same in him. For also long as I had known him I feel that I had just seen/or met him for the first time. I have told him in the past how I have felt. He has no response. I ask him to tell me what is going on through his head. He just tells me that he's in shock or doesn't know how to react. I have waited so long for him to tell me what/ how he feels. I have a family with two kids. By the way, I am a young woman whose in her mid 20's. I love the father of my children and currently live with him, but I know for a fact that I am not in love with him anymore. I have been with him for 10 years. We so call have plans to marry, but I keep hesitating for this reason. I know I am in this relationship for my kids. But my heart is aching for my best friend. One night after work I went down to his place to let it all out through the assistance of the perfect song " Bizzare Love Triangle." I will never in my life forget that night because he told me how he felt, but not the words that I needed to hear, instead he pulled me to him and we shared the most powerful kiss ever. That was two years ago, we both agreed it was the most exciting and magical moment we had ever experienced. Now, comes May 2007, again I pay him a friendly visit. Did I say that he is also in a relationship of 7 years. Anyhow, he tells me since our kiss that he hadn't stopped thinking about me and that night. I was literally " The Notebook" movie scene. It was beautiful with so much love from eachother. We told eachother that it wouldn't affect our friendship, which it hasn't. We haven't brought it up. I saw him yesterday and he looked absolutely iresistable. Now, how do i control my heart and happiness. I am content in my relationship, but no fully happy. I want to be happy too, just to put myself first for once. Am I being selfish? What should I do? Should I continue with my current relationship? I would love any advice regarding my situation. I have cried countless nights, and dreampt of being with my best friend. Please help me.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 I'm not sure what reaction you are expecting. You are living with a guy, have kids with him, and poised to marry him. You are telling this guy how you feel, but what actions are you taking to show him? If you want to be with him, you have to clear your life up in order for that to happen. Tell your boyfriend that you cannot marry him and don't want to live with him anymore - and then change your living arrangements. Work out visitation and custody issues with your children. Then, move on. Be aware though of a few things. Letting go of your boyfriend will not automatically result in this guy wanting to be with you. Not a lot of guys are enthusiastic about raising and supporting another man's children, or stepping into an 'instant family' arrangement. He may very well want to be with you, but want no part of being in a family arrangement with you. Have you and he talked about this any?
unrelatedto Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 yep.. you need to know if your best friend would agree to be with your children.. if he likes children, its for the best but if he doesnt? are ready to live without your children and their father for your best friend? or are you ready to live with your best friend without your children?? you have to make choices by yourself.. but don't lead your actual "boyfriend", you should tell him how you really feel as he might be truly in love with you and misleading him is not correct.
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