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Looks like I blew a opportunity of being with a nice girl by not going 2 Alantic City

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2 weeks ago a pretty intellient girl asked me did I want to spend the day with her in Atlantic City and I declined because it was a spontaneous type of thing. Then she called me again 2 days later and asked did I want to meet her for dinner at a restarunt and i declined again because it was not planned and I just had came home from work and you all now what goes into getting ready for a date. So in the past week I noticed she wasn't calling as much and i was getting irritated and tonight I called her and said-"Just let me know do u still want me to call you because I don't like how it takes you more than 24 hours to return my call" So she calls me back 5 min later and says she is on a date and me and her was arguing back and forth for 5 min during her date and she eventually said i have to talk to you later" So i'm sitting here mad myself right now because I had the opportunity to go on a date with her but I said no twice. I just can't never seem to do anything right when it comes to women. She didn't even have to call me back if she was on a date so I'm just pissed right now.

 

 

From this day on, whenever an attractive women askes to spend time with me I'm going with no questions asked. I don't care how tired I am or how late or hot it is outside, I have to just get dress and GO

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From this day on, whenever an attractive women askes to spend time with me I'm going with no questions asked. I don't care how tired I am or how late or hot it is outside, I have to just get dress and GO
So you woke up huh..? :)

 

It looks like your little lady who invited you out twice in a row got tired of waiting for you to answer her and take her up on her offer. You went back and forth over it all with why you should and shouldn't go and here you are. Lesson learned the hard way. What I like about your post today is it says that from now on you're going. Too right! (big change from never going right..?) :D

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I wouldn't necessarily say that you have to run everytime an attractive woman asks you to go somewhere. I don't think that's the problem here. If you need to turn someone down, the appropriate thing to do would be to suggest another time to get together. By just rejecting her---twice---you looked disinterested---or---too fussy.

 

Your other mistake was how you handled your call to her. The message you left her had "wrong" written all over it.

First, it made you look insecure by saying "just let me know if u still want me to call you" .

Second, you were scolding her for how long she takes to call back.

Third, you stayed on the phone arguing with her knowing she was on a date. That gets her thinking.....hmmmm...needy guy arguing with me on the phone vs. guy I'm out having fun with........

Which one do you think she'll pick?

 

So, aside from suggesting another time to get together when you cant go out if someone asks at the last minute, you should also work on rephrasing how you talk to them.

 

A better message to leave her would have been: "Hey Lauren, there's this new movie out that I'm planning to go see and thought if you were free, maybe you could join me. Give me a call when you get a chance."

 

You have to stay upbeat and positive no matter what. It can be hard to do sometimes but that's what you have to do in this whole dating game thing.

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So you woke up huh..? :)

 

It looks like your little lady who invited you out twice in a row got tired of waiting for you to answer her and take her up on her offer. You went back and forth over it all with why you should and shouldn't go and here you are. Lesson learned the hard way. What I like about your post today is it says that from now on you're going. Too right! (big change from never going right..?) :D

 

 

Yeah that was two saturdays ago and I feel like a A$$. I think I gotten so used to be home that it's hard for me to just play things by ear and go out the door. Now I know I can't do that anymore. One thing that confuses me she must not have been having that much fun on the date anytime she was on the phone arguing with me for 5 mins. You would think she would have just ignored me when my number showed up on her cell phone

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Wow, profound;) I`vw really learned from this! When an attractive woman asks to spend time with me I`m going pronto brotherman.

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I wouldn't necessarily say that you have to run everytime an attractive woman asks you to go somewhere. I don't think that's the problem here. If you need to turn someone down, the appropriate thing to do would be to suggest another time to get together. By just rejecting her---twice---you looked disinterested---or---too fussy.

 

Your other mistake was how you handled your call to her. The message you left her had "wrong" written all over it.

First, it made you look insecure by saying "just let me know if u still want me to call you" .

Second, you were scolding her for how long she takes to call back.

Third, you stayed on the phone arguing with her knowing she was on a date. That gets her thinking.....hmmmm...needy guy arguing with me on the phone vs. guy I'm out having fun with........

Which one do you think she'll pick?

 

So, aside from suggesting another time to get together when you cant go out if someone asks at the last minute, you should also work on rephrasing how you talk to them.

 

A better message to leave her would have been: "Hey Lauren, there's this new movie out that I'm planning to go see and thought if you were free, maybe you could join me. Give me a call when you get a chance."

 

You have to stay upbeat and positive no matter what. It can be hard to do sometimes but that's what you have to do in this whole dating game thing.

 

 

Well she doesn't sound like she was having that much fun to leave a message on my voicemail while she was on a date. I wonder how he felt sitting there when she went to the bathroom to leave me a message. atleast I hope that's what she did because I don't think he would have been to thrilled to hear her leaving me a message. Well it looks like I still have a chance, so I will be positive from this point on. No more negativity. Only. So I am glad she didn't say-"don't call me anymore" but instead she said-"if you want to continue talking to me you have to change your attitude and be more pleasant.

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she must not have been having that much fun on the date anytime she was on the phone arguing with me for 5 mins.

 

What I find so funny about this is that, by one of your previous posts, you would have walked out on her if she took took a phone call during your date! And, here you are talking to her while she's on a date. Ironic, no?

 

I can't believe you didn't go with her to AC! You really think wayyyyyy too much about your dates!

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It sounds to me like you're being avoidant because of you've been burned by your past dating experiences. Your brain is coming up with excuses/rationalizations for why you can't go on a particular date when the real reason is you're scared of putting yourself out there and getting rejected.

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Sounds to me like you push her away and then when she disappears, you want her. Chances are this will keep repeating itself until it blows up completely.

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Are you being an *ss (your words) on purpose... sure sounds like it.

 

You're way too 'precious' my dear... and that way, you'll never get yourself a woman... trust me...

 

you got to be more spontaneous... it doesn't take hours to get ready for a date... come on now... a shower, clean clothes, and hop you go... you have no make up to put on.. do you LOL?

 

Geeezzz give yourself a kick in the butt for me... :rolleyes:

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Geeezzz give yourself a kick in the butt for me... :rolleyes:

 

HOLY CRAP!!! I just agreed with Lizzie!!! :laugh:

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HOLY CRAP!!! I just agreed with Lizzie!!! :laugh:

 

You just acknowledged publicly that you agreed with me... huge difference... :p

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Be honest : when you wrote about her and AC before, it was NOT about having to get ready quickly, it was because you were worried she wanted you to pay for it !

 

Then, after YOU blow HER off twice, you call her and berate her for not returning your PHONE calls in a timely enough manner ???

 

You need a dating coach or something, you are all over the place....

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She told me she was so mad she took my number out her phone last night but I called her this morning and I apologized and she has't cut me off. So I will call her back on tuesday or wedneday and let her not hear my voice for a while since she was annoyed with me last night and ask her about going out next weekend.

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