T-town Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Would you date somebody if you found out the reason they were divorced was because they cheated on their husband/wife? I say no way, i have a friend that just found out the girl he has been dating for 2 months or so got divorced cause she cheated on her husband. I told him to drop her, not sure if he will or not. To me that is about as low as it gets, and when ur that bad of a person u can't change.
Chinook Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 No I wouldn't date someone I knew to have a history of cheating. Let's say, lesson learned the hard way.
boyboy Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 It's simple, once a cheater always a cheater. If he were to cheat on you, could you look past it and continue the relationship? If not, then it's best to end it and save yourself the trouble.
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Would you date somebody if you found out the reason they were divorced was because they cheated on their husband/wife? I say no way, i have a friend that just found out the girl he has been dating for 2 months or so got divorced cause she cheated on her husband. I told him to drop her, not sure if he will or not. To me that is about as low as it gets, and when ur that bad of a person u can't change. then you won't date anyone... LOL Most men cheat but they don't always get caught... so my bet is that most women do date cheaters and they don't know it... Cheaters are not BAD people... geezzz I wouldn't mind...
Author T-town Posted August 4, 2007 Author Posted August 4, 2007 Did u read my question? I asked would u date somebody that cheated on their husband/wife...i couldn't careless if u cheated on ur boyfriend when u were 17, the two are different ball parks.
Chinook Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 so my bet is that most women do date cheaters and they don't know it. Yep and they only find out when they go on to cheat with the next person.
norajane Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Cheaters are not BAD people... geezzz Not all bad...they probably don't kick small dogs and children, and they may never have defrauded any old ladies out of their life savings. They may even donate to charity and send their mothers flowers on Mother's Day. But they don't rate very high on the integrity scale. Nor is it easy to trust a proven liar and sneak. And when someone breaks something as serious as their wedding vows, it becomes difficult to trust any promises they make. I wouldn't mind...Yes, but you aren't looking for a committed, monogamous relationship. Quite the opposite, in fact. You service the married cheaters for sex and profit. That's not exactly what most people are doing when they date in the hopes of falling in love. I wouldn't date someone who cheated on his wife. To me, it says he was too selfish to consider the pain he'd put his wife through when she found out. And that he was perfectly willing and able to lie to her and deceive her to suit himself. And that means he's too selfish and self-serving, as well as having too high a sense of entitlement, to ever make me and my feelings a high enough priority.
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Not all bad...they probably don't kick small dogs and children, and they may never have defrauded any old ladies out of their life savings. They may even donate to charity and send their mothers flowers on Valentine's Day. But they don't rate very high on the integrity scale. Nor is it easy to trust a proven liar and sneak. And when someone breaks their wedding vows, it becomes difficult to trust any promises they make. Yes, but you aren't looking for a committed, monogamous relationship. Quite the opposite, in fact. You service the married cheaters for sex and profit. That's not exactly what most people are doing when they date in the hopes of falling in love. I wouldn't date someone who cheated on his wife. To me, it says he was too selfish to consider the pain he'd put his wife through when she found out. And that he was willing to lie to her and deceive her to suit himself. And that means he's too selfish to consider my feelings in the way I'd need him to if I were serious about him. Then most of the population is low on your integrity scale... LOL because whether you like it or not...most men cheat.... You're right... I'm not looking for a committed, serious relationship... and if I were... I know that 9 out of 10 men I would date would probably be a cheater... so unless someone wants to remain single for the rest of their life they have to accept that they might date a cheater... It's reality...
Author T-town Posted August 4, 2007 Author Posted August 4, 2007 It's reality... It's not reality that most cheat on their husbands/wives.
Art_Critic Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 .most men cheat.... I have never cheated and never will... so I guess I don't fall into your most number.. You only date men that cheat Lizzie.. so you don't get much of a chance to meet men that have a certain type of integrity. I would never use a call girl.. but I'll bet that ALL men that use call girls cheat on their wives..Simply them using a call girl is cheating
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 You seem to be repeating this quite a bit I have never cheated and never will... so I guess I don't fall into your most number.. You only date men that cheat Lizzie.. so you don't get much of a chance to meet men that have a certain type of integrity. I would never use a call girl.. but I'll bet that MOST men that use call girls cheat on their wives.. No Art... you seem to forget that I've been in this lifestyle only for the last 4 years... I have always been a firm believer, all my adult life that most if not all men would cheat given an opportunity and knowing their partner would never find out. Most men cheat... I've seen sooo much cheating around me all my life... friends, work colleagues, family, neighbours... priests.. they're everywhere. I would say that over 95% of men cheat... you're in the 5% that are faithful... LOL but hey...your life is not over yet... you're still young... LOL
Art_Critic Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 I would say that over 95% of men cheat... you're in the 5% that are faithful... LOL but hey...your life is not over yet... you're still young... LOL We are a product of our environments.. my environments have obviously been different than yours.. Because you have seen cheating in your life doesn't mean that you can extrapolate that to all men in all cities in all countries.. Sorry.. you are much to cynical about men for me to believe ALL mean cheat.. since I am one that has not and will not.. and I'm not all that much younger than you .. I'm 44.. I have lived quite a bit also..
playabum17 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 No Art... you seem to forget that I've been in this lifestyle only for the last 4 years... I have always been a firm believer, all my adult life that most if not all men would cheat given an opportunity and knowing their partner would never find out. Most men cheat... I've seen sooo much cheating around me all my life... friends, work colleagues, family, neighbours... priests.. they're everywhere. I would say that over 95% of men cheat... you're in the 5% that are faithful... LOL but hey...your life is not over yet... you're still young... LOL That's a pretty high number, got anything to back that up? I know, I'm a little Pollyanna but I just don't think it's that high. Not all men are dishonest, waiting to cheat, scum of the earth...I guess I've just had different experiences than you have. In the same breath, in answer to the OP...I would not just simply write them off, upon finding out they were a cheater in the past. I know from my own personal experiences that life is not black and white and sometimes things happen because of circumstances that we never thought we would find ourselves in...
uniqueone Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 No, I wouldn't date someone who cheated. Also, I do not believe that all men cheat. Ok, if you want to argue that, then we have culture or biology as causes. We come from all different cultures so that couldn't explain the theory of all men cheating because there would be no constancies. That leaves biology. That means we are saying that testosterone causes cheating/dishonesty. To further that, it means that because a person has a high level of testosterone, it means that they cannot make clear choices between right and wrong and therefore have no problem being dishonest. So, if we go by that, then a high level of testosterone = dishonesty. That doesnt sound valid to me. What DOES sound valid is that a high level of testosterone = a high sex drive. But it's the person---their brain----that decides if they want to be dishonest and cheat. And because each brain decides for itself what to do, it can't be "all men" that cheat because each mind is unique.
jcster Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 I would say that over 95% of men cheat Wow! That's a total load of bull! 95% eh? So, by your book, only 5% of men are faithful? That's such a load.
mental_traveller Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 I have always been a firm believer, all my adult life that most if not all men would cheat given an opportunity and knowing their partner would never find out. You are making the absurd assumption that all men are currently committed to monogamy. Single men, and men in open relationships, by definition cannot cheat. So even if 100% of married men cheat, there's still a decent percentage (way more than 5%) who not only don't cheat, but actually cannot cheat in any way whatsoever.
Woggle Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Not unless they showed some serious remorse for what they did. If a woman I was dating was making excuses for her cheating and blaming her ex I would run and never look back because if she did it to him she will do it to me.
lovelorcet Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Then most of the population is low on your integrity scale... LOL because whether you like it or not...most men cheat.... Can you please stop spreading this BS! Have you ever thought that working as a hooker you dont get to meet all types of men? I am a man, my longest relationship was over 10 years and I never cheated. And in the future I never will.
Krytellan Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Why do people continue to be worked up by Lizzie's constant assertions of male infidelity? It has become a running dialogue... must get thicker skin about it 'cuz it'll keep coming, right Lizzie?
cr8sea Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 wow....dating someone who has a history of cheating is REALLY asking for it...what would make you SO very special that he/she wouldnt cheat on you too! Nope i would never date someone who i know has cheated...and if i ever find out whoever im dating is cheating...im out faster than a bullet...sorry, no second chances...in fact i wouldnt even speak to the person....dont wanna hear it! Sorry, i feel really strongly about this, ive seen too many amazing women go thru years of cheating from their husbands and even ilegitimate children, and stick with it...and i cant understand why!
Citizen Erased Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 No I wouldn't. The first and only time I have ever seen my dad cry was when he realized my mum was cheating on him. I may not get along with him, but anyone who can do that to another human being I can't trust.
Trialbyfire Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 No, never. I would also never date a man who's been with a hooker, either.
Woggle Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 The hooker thing I don't see as a big deal. If a man wants some drama free sex and he has the money why not? There is nothing dishonest about it.
Krytellan Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 But there is something very unsanitary about it
Woggle Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 But there is something very unsanitary about it That just adds to the fun.
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