melodymatters Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I'm 40, my last relationship ended about 6months ago, I'm meeting great guys, and I have NO interest in pursuing anything with them !!!! I am not scarred by my last break up, it was my choice. Since then I have met good looking, interesting men, who in other times I KNOW I would have been interested in, but nowadys dating, getting to know somone.....feels like work ! I'd much rather sit home with a good book and make myself dinner, than dress up, go out, make CONVERSATION. UGHH !!!! I know I am slightly depressed as I am not that into ANY of the things I used to enjoy, but maybe thats just a natural part of getting older ? I guess without really being IN the situation you can't give any in depth answers, but tell me if you have ever felt like I do, and what happened from there ?!? Thanks !
Trialbyfire Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Yes, yes, yes, I have. Many a time. What happened is that this usually resulted in meeting someone worth further investigation and effort.
Chinook Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Yes, yes, yes, I have. Many a time. What happened is that this usually resulted in meeting someone worth further investigation and effort. Uh huh. [nods] Same here. Usually it's that 'when you're least expecting it' thing too.
LN99 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Yeah, i've met a few guys that were interested, but I just was not. If I don't get that butterfly feeling, then I'm definately not up for pursuing anything. For me, I just find it easier not to deal with it. And yes I've noticed, that butterfly feeling usually happens when your not looking.
jcster Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Yeah, for the most part it just seems like work to me. I have a lot more fun just chatting and then going home and getting a good night's sleep. I think that it's part of finally learning what you truly want out of life, and realizing that a lot of what you previously thought was love was just need and insecurity.
alphamale Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 yea MM i've been in this situation for past 3 or 4 months. just haven't felt like being with anyone even tho i've had some chances. but i'm coming out of it now. its happened a few times before but never lasted more than six months or so. now i'm startin' to think "man, i gotta go out & get me some action"
amaysngrace Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Being like that led me to my exH. And I was like that before I met my current BF. Oh, wait, come to think of it, I've ALWAYS been like that!
Author melodymatters Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 Thanks So much my LS comrades ! I have always been so very social, I was worried there was something " wrong" with me, or the way I was feeling. I guess I will stop overthinking it and accept that it's just a phase, and sometime when I least expect it, I will have that "butterfly, can't WAIT to talk to him" feeling again. Love you guys !!!
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