buzzie2 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Hi, I have a question about a guy that I like from work. I think he liked me and was working up his way to ask me out, but after an incident outside of the worplace happened I'm not so sure. What happened was that he saw me at the bottle depot collecting money for empty cans. After this happened he barely looks at me. Do you think he thinks less of me now?
directx Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Were you just returning cans or where you going from person to person asking for cans that you could turn in for money?
Author buzzie2 Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 I was returning cans that I had been collecting at my appartment for a while, and I ran into him there. He was returning his beer bottles and was sorting them next to me. Although he said hi intitially, he ignored me while we sorted. Now at work he can barely look at me. I'm wondering if he's more embarrassed because I saw him there?
directx Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Well, if thats the case he really is shallow. Whats the big deal in returning cans? Its better than throwing them out. If this was enough to turn him off from you, you never had a shot in the first place because its just plain stupid to think less of someone for returning cans. You sure its not all in your head?
Author buzzie2 Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 No, I'm positive it's not all in my head. Normally at work he acts cocky and macho, sort of like he's trying to impress me at work (he's an assistant manager at the grocery store I work at). But the last time I saw him, as soon as he saw me his head jerked up, and then he looked away, and he didn't say hi until he walked by me.
directx Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I dont know buzzie. Sounds really odd that seeing you returning cans would change his idea of you. I have to think its something else or the guy is just odd.
spookie Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I seriously doubt it was because you were returning cans or saw him returning cans or whatever wacky theory you've got going. Likely the can thing just coincided with something else going on in his life. Maybe he found a gf? You gotta stop obsessing the can thing. Either hike up your flirtation up a notch so he knows you like him, or ask him out yourself, or let it go.
Arizona100 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 If thats the reason why he's avoiding you.. I find it so immature.. so what, everybody has to be born with a silverspoon in their mouth? And to be responsible and return your empty cans is a bad thing? I would agree, he must have found a gf or something. If the can event is the real reason, I would sooo move on, he's not worth the attention (beside let me tell you something, my ex husband spent way more money than he had and he ended up with debts I didnt know about .. so saving money def is a good thing in my book)
zilverenvlinder Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I know how it goes. LOL. There was this guy I used to work with that I thought was really hot, and he had all these affectionate little nicknames for me. Then one day I tucked my freaking shirt into my freaking underwear. He never really treated me the same since. ;-(
zilverenvlinder Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Also, he was returning beer bottles, was he not? Same thing essentially, unless I'm missing something here? He probably broke up with his girlfriend and they recently reconciled.
Lizzie60 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I'm sure it's something else... If he was returning his bottles then he knows people can return their cans (good for the environment)... it's got to be something else... really and if that's really the reason...he's a complete idiot and you don't need idiots in your life.... period.
Woggle Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 If he thinks less of you tell the classist idiot to get lost and find somebody better.
Replicant Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 What happened was that he saw me at the bottle depot collecting money for empty cans. But you were both at the same place doing entirely the same thing though. Only he was bringing back bottles, you returning cans. Above all else, if no approach was being made in the workplace in regards to a date, to me this would have been a excellent opportunity on anyones part when mutually meeting like that in public by surprise. Someone whom is interested would not ignore you, and like others have said (but unlikely) if it was because of meeting there, then he's probably worth about as much as those returned bottles anyways.
Limerent Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Normally at work he acts cocky and macho, sort of like he's trying to impress me at work Could it be that you actually caught him not living up to the image he was trying to present to you and it embarrassed him? Normally, one wouldnt equate cocky, macho, showoff with recycling, caring about the environment or thriftiness. It might have been that it was a moment where he percieved he was showing a weakness, and it went contrary to what he has been presenting to you. My first thought was that he was embarrassed, and is now not sure how to act, because you have seen first hand through his cocky macho facade.
jcster Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 He's either shy, or he is only interested in a workplace flirtation. The problem is that he's your manager. There really isn't any way for you guys to see each other right now without that becomming a huge problem in the workplace (and there may be rules against it that you aren't aware of). I think you should stop obsessing over this guy - it's obvious that you've been interested in him for quite some time, but nothing is coming of it.
LN99 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 You are overanalyzing this situation WAY TOO MUCH! (Trust me girl, I have been there. Don't mean to diss you or anything.) But from our point of view it's that much more obvious. I've been reading your posts. Sometimes its best to hear from other people when you really are making too much of something. Two weeks ago it was you being worried that he would think YOU thought less of him because he had empty beer bottles. Now you think he thinks less of YOU for turning in your old cans/bottles? I mean, he was there at the same place as you doing pretty much the same thing. Why would he think less of you? If anything, I think that he was surprised to run into you. Plus, I think managers have a strict rule about socializing with people underneath them at work. Maybe he was afraid someone would see and get the wrong idea? So therefore he just kept quiet and went about his business. As for him liking you, who knows? He could, or he might be involved with someone else completely. You never know. But at this point with him being your manager, its best to forget about him as anything more and move on. If he's not outright flirting with you or asking for your number, I wouldn't dwell on it. Sorry, but its true.
Author buzzie2 Posted August 9, 2007 Author Posted August 9, 2007 Well I just wanted to update you guys on what has been going on with the guy that I ran into at the bottle depot two weeks ago. Well before this incident I think I mentioned he was being really sweet and cared a lot about me, but since running into him he has been a complete jerk (and not just to me). I actually witnessed him losing his temper in the back room a couple of night and he started swearing profanities in front of me and a couple of the other workers (and he's a manager). Then another friend of mine said that he barked at her, and she asked him what was wrong and he snapper" lots of things are wrong with me". So I don't know if me running into him at the depot had anything to do with this, but I just find it strange timing, and also I don't know if I mentioned that he is rumoured to be an alchoholic, and I the depot I saw him with boxes and boxes of beer! So maybe he's upset with that. What do you guys think? And from what I've told you does it sound like I'm better of without him? He's starting to be a real *******.
LN99 Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 Honestly, I don't think it had anything to do with you. I think the guy just needs to back off people who work underneath him. I think maybe he got a warning about it or something. Or maybe he realizes that being in charge means he has to keep that distance...and its fustrating. Either way, I would steer clear of him unless its work related.
Author buzzie2 Posted August 9, 2007 Author Posted August 9, 2007 yeah, I think that's good advice. He is under a lot of stress right now so I'm just going to try to ignore him, and only be polite when I have too. If he REALLY liked me I think he would have asked me out by now, and obviously I'm not that important to him.
LN99 Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 yeah, I think that's good advice. He is under a lot of stress right now so I'm just going to try to ignore him, and only be polite when I have too. If he REALLY liked me I think he would have asked me out by now, and obviously I'm not that important to him. Don't take it too personal. These things happen....to all of us at some point. Just next time, find someone to crush on that isn't at the workplace or in a higher position over you. Makes things so much easier.
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