JamesM Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 you all are missing some important points they aren't married, the bank acct was in her name only, and the plan was to put the house in her name only, he must be able to manage his money - she's asking him for money to pay her bills when she's got 10K socked away. Didn't he also say that he put stuff on his card when she was short on cash herself? saying your employer screwed up your paycheck deposits is outright lying - wouldn't YOU know if your paycheck was short? employers would make that up right away - not months later. she lied, betrayed his trust, and sounds to me like she's setting herself up to be in control and with all the power when it comes to the house. One important point that has NOT been missed is that they are married. According to his thread from August 1 (the link is listed in my last post), he mentions his wife as being like Paris Hilton. But the other points you mentioned, I agree. This whole thing seems kind of strange.
InLimbo2 Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 yep- I was wrong on that - I went back and looked after I posted - I figured you'd catch it and point out my error One important point that has NOT been missed is that they are married. According to his thread from August 1 (the link is listed in my last post), he mentions his wife as being like Paris Hilton. But the other points you mentioned, I agree. This whole thing seems kind of strange.
risqueclothes4him Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 This woman had no problems running up his charge cards. The reason she hid the money doesn't matter, the fact is she did it knowingly and worse she imposed on his credit status to keep hers clean. I hate the separate money thing in a relationship, either you're all-in or its not a relationship built for the long term. She's clearly hedging her bets so you better get your cards paid up, using her money as well as yours then decide what to do going forward. Do not let her take advantage of you or your credit ever.
Trialbyfire Posted August 8, 2007 Posted August 8, 2007 This woman had no problems running up his charge cards. The reason she hid the money doesn't matter, the fact is she did it knowingly and worse she imposed on his credit status to keep hers clean. I hate the separate money thing in a relationship, either you're all-in or its not a relationship built for the long term. She's clearly hedging her bets so you better get your cards paid up, using her money as well as yours then decide what to do going forward. Do not let her take advantage of you or your credit ever. During the time when she wasn't working when we were short on money, I would pay for things on my credit cards under the impression that she had no money to contribute at the time which wasn't a concern to me. risqueclothes4him, To be fair, you should read the included quote from the OP. More than anything, it looks like assumptions were made with no proper communications. I agree with a number of the posters. The two lack communication and trust. If the marriage is to succeed, the two need to learn these skills FAST.
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