Phoebe Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Urrgh. I need people's advice. I am really stressing out at the moment. I married a USAF serviceman when he was stationed in the UK. We were married for nearly 2 years before we had to move to the states due to new orders. Unfortunately the nearly 2 years didn't cut it for immigration so I was only granted permanent residence under a conditional status which I had to apply to have removed in another two years. Cut to present day, I'm now in the 90 days where I have to apply to have this conditional status removed. My husband was deployed to Kuwait in March and will likely be out there until November. My visa expires in October. Not a problem you'd think, just get him to sign it and send it over. Problem is I'm not his favourite person at the moment as I told him while he was deployed that I've decided to leave him. I know a lot of people will think that I'm very cold hearted and cruel to do this while his deployed. All I can say in my defence was that it wasn't until he left and I realised that I didn't miss him that I examined our relationship in close detail and realised that this wasn't the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. So you see, he may not be so willing to sign the papers. What's driving me crazy is that if we were already divorced it would be so much easier as I could waive the requirement to file jointly. I just need to prove that our marriage was genuine and not a sham (and it was genuine - just not successful), but in order to file properly I need his signature because we're still married!! Urggghh. I've never dreamed of living in America, I moved here because of my husband. But now I've built some kind of life for myself, and I don't want to leave it. Does anyone have any advice?
corazoncito Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Have you asked him? Maybe he'll agree to it. In the meantime, you should get in touch with an immigration attorney to see what your options are. Does the Air Force have any resources for you as a spouse to help with that?
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 My understanding (though it doesn't include immagrants) is that as his wife you have the same opportunities and benefits that he does. I also believe that I've read here that a service attorney can advise but not actuate. Could be wrong. Maybe it was Gunny that said that, look him up and PM. He may have some knowledge that would serve you.
Author Phoebe Posted August 2, 2007 Author Posted August 2, 2007 I'm sending him an email now. Unfortunately because of where he is I'm unable to call him, he has to call me. The last time he called was about a couple of weeks ago, sounding very bitter, just to let me know he was alive and that I hadn't won the lottery yet. I didn't want to hurt him, and I feel very responsible for our marriage getting to that state. But I couldn't stay with him, and couldn't sting him along making him think that things would be normal when he got back from his deployment. I think that I'm going to have to contact an Immigration attorney. I can't believe that I left all this to the last minute. I feel like any happiness that I've found while I've been over here is about to be taken away. I have a job I love, good friends and my four babes (pets) over here, in the UK I'll have no job, no friends and will have to move in with my mum and leave all my babes behind. There is a pet passport scheme, but it takes at least 6 months to complete the requirements and I don't have that much time. I really do not want to have to start all over again.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 I don't blame you, and I'm missing my pup as we speak (er... type) but nothing comes without a price. Sometimes you have to pick and choose what is MOST important.
Author Phoebe Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 I don't blame you, and I'm missing my pup as we speak (er... type) but nothing comes without a price. Sometimes you have to pick and choose what is MOST important. I want to stay in the states. I just hope that's possible. I can't believe it. I almost dreaded coming over here and now look at me. That's life I guess.
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